Autistic sister

My sister was underwent a medication change that started in January that mad her disability worse.

She now acts up and was attention seeking with me up until a point.  My mother looks about 10 years older than she is.  All the stress contributed to putting my father in an early grave 4 years ago.  When he was diagnosed with cancer she was actually under a section in hospital because she was refusing to take prescribed medication.  My mother vents her frustration onto me quite often throughout my childhood, adolescence and adulthood.

I started a nursing degree this academic year and her medication change and resulting change in behaviour has contributed to me to failing a placement as I was too stressed and depressed to attend or even inform of my absense meaning I will need to re-do my first year or leave the course.  I will leave the course as I have also experienced bullying in this profession.  There is a saying that nurses eat their young and I have very much experienced that on several occasions.

I feel utterly let down, disappointed and disillusioned to be in this situation.  This academic year I have acquired ~£20,000 worth of debt with nothing to show for it.   If I wasn't taking anti depressants then I would likely feel suicidal.

I have tried to support my mother and sister as best I can but the abuse from them has became too much to bear.  I don't even think the damage they have caused to me is even an after thought.

  • Hi NAS72805,

    I'm glad you've been able to talk to other members about this and hope that that has helped.

    For further advice, as aidie mentioned, you may like to contact our Autism Helpline team who can provide you with information and advice.  They'll be taking calls until May 19th.

    https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/helpline 

    You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Friday 10 am to 3 pm. Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an adviser).

    Parent to Parent is another service that could be of use to you. They offer emotional support to parents and carers of children or adults with autism. It's a confidential service and is run by trained parent volunteers who are all parents themselves of a child or adult with autism. The helpline will re-open on May 17th and their number is 0808 800 4106.

    Hope this helps.

    Kindest regards,

    Eunice Mod

  • u sound really down and in great distress. My heart goes out to at this time ---- can u please ring this helpline tomorrow. Get back here if there is no reply.

    https://www.autism.org.uk/what-we-do/help-and-support/helpline

    You can call them on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Friday 10am to 3pm.Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an adviser.

    All the best,