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Struggling

Knightly

Hi, I’ve never joined a forum about autism before however, have come to the conclusion that I need some help and advice as I’m really struggling. I’m a mum of three boys, two with a diagnosis of autism and one who is 2 and under investigation for autism. 
I can honestly say that life is just ridiculously stressful. My older two are constantly arguing, my youngest is just ridiculously aggressive. I feel like some days I dread doing anything because there will just be a ridiculous battle of wills to get out the house. I feel like I’m a giving up as a parent and that makes me feel incredibly guilty. My husband and I have literally no support from anyone, and I feel at times our relationship is also pushed to the brink. My advice for these awful days would be much appreciated.

emma 

  • Hi Emma,

    Wow i really feel for you, we have a son who is autistic, we had some really tough times when he was younger, but i'm really proud as to how he has progressed. How old are the older two and what do they generally argue about?

    What are the main issues that you have at the moment and feel that you need support with? I think with any children not just ones with autism is to pick your battles well.

    Routine is great, with our son we have routines and we used to have to prepare him for things before they happened, it took a long time for us to leave the house so we had to start getting him sorted an hour or two before we wanted to leave.

    Advice is a bit difficult as all children are different but if we had a bit more info then someone might be able to pop up and say hey, yes we had this kind of situation and we dealt with it in this way.

    You are definitely not alone and don't beat yourself up about it, you also need to look after yourselves too in order to look after your children. From experience, if you end up really struggling you end up not helping anyone.

    Hopefully with a bit more info we can provide a bit of support!