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Unexplained Crying Advice Needed

NAS72335

Hi.. my son is 5 with a diagnosis of ASD and is non verbal.

He often will cry at bedtime for no apparent reason and due to being non verbal he can’t tell us why.

Tonight the crying session has lasted way longer than usual.. nearly 2 hours. He is sleeping soundly now but I find it so distressing. 

I worry maybe there is something wrong that I’m missing because he can’t tell us how he is feeling. 

I have mentioned him doing this to his consultant before and he said it could be a sensory issue, he certainly didn’t seem concerned by it. He said it could be he finds feeling tired upsetting. 

I was wondering if anyone else’s child does this. It may help me not to worry so much to know it is common for children with Autism to do this and any tips on how I can console him would be greatly appreciated as nothing we have tried has helped up to now. 

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  • My son is 5 too with ASD. He did this a while back and it took a long time to figure out. He just wanted me to lie down beside him but not to say anything or cuddle him. It's trial and error. I'd look really closely at his body language to see if you can figure out anything. Is he reaching out or pushing you away, pointing at anything? Is he looking at anything? Is there any noise? If not, a white noise speaker may help. Is he comfortable? Are the covers too heavy/light? Does the fabric conditioner smell too strong? What does he have for supper? Maybe it's giving him tummy ache? Does his crying get any worse if you do anything such as go towards him or leave towards the room door? Is the temperature in the room too hot or cold?

    I have 2 boys (5&7) with ASD and some of the above affects them. One likes the room freezing and the other really warm. They don't like nylon bed sheets and only want particular covers on their bed.

    What about the times he doesn't cry at bedtime? Is there something different in his routine, or perhaps the things your say or do? What about the things he eats/drinks, or surroundings? Does he like the light on or off? Maybe he's scared of the dark and a small dim lamp may be useful. It could be any of these or something else. I hope it's given you some ideas.

    I hope you work it out as it is upsetting for you all. You need to play the detective and look for the smallest detail.

    Best wishes.

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  • My son is 5 too with ASD. He did this a while back and it took a long time to figure out. He just wanted me to lie down beside him but not to say anything or cuddle him. It's trial and error. I'd look really closely at his body language to see if you can figure out anything. Is he reaching out or pushing you away, pointing at anything? Is he looking at anything? Is there any noise? If not, a white noise speaker may help. Is he comfortable? Are the covers too heavy/light? Does the fabric conditioner smell too strong? What does he have for supper? Maybe it's giving him tummy ache? Does his crying get any worse if you do anything such as go towards him or leave towards the room door? Is the temperature in the room too hot or cold?

    I have 2 boys (5&7) with ASD and some of the above affects them. One likes the room freezing and the other really warm. They don't like nylon bed sheets and only want particular covers on their bed.

    What about the times he doesn't cry at bedtime? Is there something different in his routine, or perhaps the things your say or do? What about the things he eats/drinks, or surroundings? Does he like the light on or off? Maybe he's scared of the dark and a small dim lamp may be useful. It could be any of these or something else. I hope it's given you some ideas.

    I hope you work it out as it is upsetting for you all. You need to play the detective and look for the smallest detail.

    Best wishes.

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