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Wandering in school and many problems....

ParentingAutism

Hi again, my 14 y.o daughter has many problems in school... 

1. She doesn't like 'Project' lesson (similar to history) (I did a post on this). Walking out of school... - Parents and carers - Home - National Autistic Society - our Community (autism.org.uk)

2. She is always walking round the school site or not in her lessons ever since the main problem in 'Project' started.

3. She is starting to become rude and defiant to staff. 

4. She's starting to not enjoy school since everything is changing and becoming unpredictable... 

Anyways... I don't know how to help her since it's all at school and she's fine at home. 

Today for example, she asked her SENDco what lessons she had and when she heard she had 'Project' twice, she walked away so the SENDco tried talking to her teacher and told my daughter what she would be doing today and she just replied 'Well, I don't want to do that. They just keep changing everything and they'll probably do it again.' 

She keeps walking out of lessons and sitting in the hall and won't move. Teachers will talk about her favourite hobbies with her and encourage her to go into the classroom. They even tell her to be in the right place and if she doesn't want to do the work, she doesn't have to, or even be in the corridor where her classroom is.

She is starting to become really unmotivated even with her favourite subject, math. She will leave and sit in the hall. But today, no-one told her that her teacher was off so when a different teacher (who she liked and knew) walked in, she legged it into the hall again. She was encouraged and lots of things were offered to her but in the end she ended up doing the work in the hall. 

She is always asking to go home and is struggling to get out of bed in the morning. She is in a PRU (Pupil Referral Unit) waiting for a place in another school. Today there were only 10 students in. I don't know how to help her and I need help.  Does she like the attention of all the teachers talking to her? Is she bored of being in the same classroom all day, all week? Is she just trying to avoid lessons? Is she just stressed and fed-up? I don't know what to do but she's getting worse in my eyes... 

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  • ParentingAutism said:
    They even tell her to be in the right place and if she doesn't want to do the work, she doesn't have to, or even be in the corridor where her classroom is.

    That is part of the problem. From their view they kind of wish she'd just sit down and shut up. PRUs aren't really for education they're for containment of difficult students. She needs stimulation, some work that can both interest and challenge her, and she needs it delivered in a consistent way. She should have her own personalised curriculum plan. A comprehensive list of what she will be taught, what work she will be required to do, what the specifications / marking scheme of the work will be, and the different teachers need to stick to it even if it conflicts with the wider classes lesson plan. Additionally she should have input into the formulation of the personalised curriculum ... However I have 0 confidence a state school, even a PRU where classes are quite small, would ever agree to something that bespoke.

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    Peter said:
    She needs stimulation, some work that can both interest and challenge her, and she needs it delivered in a consistent way. She should have her own personalised curriculum plan.

    Yes, I agree. Today, I have just realized that she is bored in lesson so wonders around to stimulate herself. Today when she kept leaving and wandering from her classroom, they had a teaching assistant sit with her and help her with the work and she managed to do it. Another time she wandered today was during her 'Project' lesson where she is doing the making task at home with me so everyone else is doing it in school so she has nothing to do. Teachers gave her word searches to do based on the lesson (which she loves) but as soon as she finished them all, she went for a walk drawing on the walls. 

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    ParentingAutism said:
    Today, I have just realized that she is bored in lesson

    This is what we talked about on the other thread - she needs experts into her interests to stretch her mind and widen her horizons - the current staff are nice - but too dull for her.

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