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Wandering in school and many problems....

ParentingAutism

Hi again, my 14 y.o daughter has many problems in school... 

1. She doesn't like 'Project' lesson (similar to history) (I did a post on this). Walking out of school... - Parents and carers - Home - National Autistic Society - our Community (autism.org.uk)

2. She is always walking round the school site or not in her lessons ever since the main problem in 'Project' started.

3. She is starting to become rude and defiant to staff. 

4. She's starting to not enjoy school since everything is changing and becoming unpredictable... 

Anyways... I don't know how to help her since it's all at school and she's fine at home. 

Today for example, she asked her SENDco what lessons she had and when she heard she had 'Project' twice, she walked away so the SENDco tried talking to her teacher and told my daughter what she would be doing today and she just replied 'Well, I don't want to do that. They just keep changing everything and they'll probably do it again.' 

She keeps walking out of lessons and sitting in the hall and won't move. Teachers will talk about her favourite hobbies with her and encourage her to go into the classroom. They even tell her to be in the right place and if she doesn't want to do the work, she doesn't have to, or even be in the corridor where her classroom is.

She is starting to become really unmotivated even with her favourite subject, math. She will leave and sit in the hall. But today, no-one told her that her teacher was off so when a different teacher (who she liked and knew) walked in, she legged it into the hall again. She was encouraged and lots of things were offered to her but in the end she ended up doing the work in the hall. 

She is always asking to go home and is struggling to get out of bed in the morning. She is in a PRU (Pupil Referral Unit) waiting for a place in another school. Today there were only 10 students in. I don't know how to help her and I need help.  Does she like the attention of all the teachers talking to her? Is she bored of being in the same classroom all day, all week? Is she just trying to avoid lessons? Is she just stressed and fed-up? I don't know what to do but she's getting worse in my eyes... 

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  • Are you able to talk to her on a very frank basis about all this?     Get some paper and write down all of her grievances - there may be an obvious pattern within the list.   

    It could be something really odd like the windows are in the wrong place or the lights flicker or there's a squeaky door or bad smell that is elevating her background stress level.

  • in reply to Plastic

    She has only told me that the lighting is different and she prefers to be in the hall. When I've been in there before, the classroom is darker (which she prefers) and the hall is lighter since it is basically the entrance to go outside so you have the sun shining through (which she doesn't like the sun). One thing I have realized is that she has the view to the animals outside when she's in the hall (She loves animals). Teachers have also realized she will sit in the same seat in the hall. 

  • in reply to ParentingAutism

    Certain animals are very 'autistic' especially dogs and cows - they love routine and obeying rules and they don't like things that are unknown.    It sounds like she's very sensitive to her immediate environment - her home safe place is her benchmark for comfort - anything else is likely to be a source of discomfort or irritation.

  • in reply to ParentingAutism

    I wish I was good with animals.

    Growing up, I was over-eager to pet our dog and cats like Lenny from 'Of Mice and Men'. And my granddad - in his infinite wisdom - encouraged my brother and I to make the dog attack the mop.

    However, I wouldn't blame my granddad. If it wasn't for him, I'd be living rough in the streets; with no one to turn to.

  • in reply to Plastic
    Plastic said:
    Sometimes they're hilarious to watch.

    I totally agree, these animals sit on each others headsJoy. And the goats are smart and were so funny to watch.

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  • in reply to ParentingAutism

    I wish I was good with animals.

    Growing up, I was over-eager to pet our dog and cats like Lenny from 'Of Mice and Men'. And my granddad - in his infinite wisdom - encouraged my brother and I to make the dog attack the mop.

    However, I wouldn't blame my granddad. If it wasn't for him, I'd be living rough in the streets; with no one to turn to.