Walking out of school...

sorry I have to ask. what is the project she dislikes so much? What is it on? It might not just be the teachers, it might be the content of the project to?

We've figured out that last week everything changed.... 

She has 5 teachers and they are all doing different thing and has in 9 times a week so it's a lot of change. The main problems are: 2 teachers do models where they are building/making an ancient roundhouse and she has it planned but they kept changing it. She is now deciding she isn't going to bother because of this since it's stressful so she has nothing to do in the lesson because she agreed she'll make it at home. 

The other problem is: another teacher is doing history of food and making it, but my daughter had her as a cover teacher last week and she did everything differently which stressed her out and upset her. So in her mind, she told me, 'What's the point in doing the history on food if I'm not going to cook it.' She has made the choice that whenever she has these lessons, she will not participate because 'What's the point.' 

I'm not quite sure how to help her since now she is bored but today teachers gave her a word search to do based on the lesson... 

She's a bit bright - they talk about building something and she's probably got it all worked out in her head in seconds - the plan is sorted and she knows what to do - and then they change the remit - so all the stuff she has in her mind is pointless.    Rinse & repeat.

She sounds very black & white - she does not allow any sloppiness from professionals - she's measuring them and judging them and finding them as wanting.   This is quite common.   

She needs to find teachers / friends on her level - they need to have something interesting to add to her mind or she'll kick them to the side of the road.   She will probably enjoy listening to experts in whatever field she's interested in - a sort of data feast.

What is she into?

I'm into AgentJayZ on youtube - clearly Asperger's guy talking about jet engines

She's a bit bright - they talk about building something and she's probably got it all worked out in her head in seconds - the plan is sorted and she knows what to do - and then they change the remit - so all the stuff she has in her mind is pointless.    Rinse & repeat.

She sounds very black & white - she does not allow any sloppiness from professionals - she's measuring them and judging them and finding them as wanting.   This is quite common.   

She needs to find teachers / friends on her level - they need to have something interesting to add to her mind or she'll kick them to the side of the road.   She will probably enjoy listening to experts in whatever field she's interested in - a sort of data feast.

What is she into?

I'm into AgentJayZ on youtube - clearly Asperger's guy talking about jet engines

For sure.

Locals think I'm 'Not Wise' because I didn't fly to England. However, I received a full refund from Virgin, for the inconvenience. (I booked the tickets online with the train line dot com)

That certainly sounds like an adventure!

I am like that with my online friend from Brighton. Though he does hog the limelight about his issues with medication and his Support Team, he is my go-to for any Sci-Fi knowledge. (Wasn't geeky enough as a child, sorry)

I met him four years ago, in Brighton, we went to the pier and had a bit of a nosey. We were at the beach and had Fish and Chips. I went the Dennis Bergkamp route; cross-ferry coach from Belfast to Glasgow, train from Glasgow to London and train from London to Brighton.

I missed the scheduled train from Glasgow to London, then boarded a train to Birmingham; which was delayed for two hours due to a line fault before Lockerbie. We got off at Preston, got a train from Edinburgh to Birmingham and Virgin provided a taxi - at their expense - the rest of the way. I had to flag a cab from Euston to a B and B at Earl's Court I had booked. I didn't get to bed until 4:20 am. However, it was an adventure.

That's amazing. Thanks Plastic.

Get her to look at google maps and get her to plan different expedition rides around the country - it calculates times and distances - get her to work out stopping points and maybe hotels and restaurants on the way.    Look at the geography of the areas and ascents and downhill sections.  

Expand it to the rest of the world.   You're then talking about airports and flights - baggage and transport-  maybe hiring a bike overseas-  like The Netherlands - it's all about finding the links.

Thanks, I will start doing that.

That's why I suggested expanding the boundaries of her interest - add width and depth with different approaches - we get accused as having very narrow interests but you can add stepping-stones from bikes to other subjects so it all feels logical - and necessary - to her to learn more.

I love how detailed she can be and helps me describe some things which she loves. She has a great memory for things she would like to remember but the other things will go through one ear and out the other lol 

ParentingAutism said:

One creepy thing she does is she can describe some famous bike riders she is interested in. She will describe their hair, eyes, clothing, body shape.. 

Welcome to Asperger's,     I could bore the crap out of you about sooooo many subjects,     

What would you like to know about the evolution of the Citroen 2CV engine over its lifetime?   

How about the proper start-up sequence for an Apollo Saturn V main F1 engines?

Yes..

That'll be good for her - burn energy and be part of a herd / flock for a while.

Yes, we are on the waiting list for a youth cycling club which she can't wait for. One creepy thing she does is she can describe some famous bike riders she is interested in. She will describe their hair, eyes, clothing, body shape.. 

Sound like she needs a bike-nerd to interact with. 

She has talked about them before and the different types of bikes and clothing and different parts of the bikes. She has also talked about the best ways to pedal in the wind and on hills.

That's all pretty light - it's almost small-talk.    You might find that there's huge areas of her subject that no-one has ever broached with her..

Does she talk about different tyres or tyre pressures or suspension settings to make peddling easier?

My daughter talks a lot about her rides, how far/fast she went and every detail in between and it is limited to that.

Can you expand the cycling into the engineering of the bikes - material science, maintenance, custom design etc.      People pay big money for custom things - like Bamboo bike frames.

I'm finding wherever you need someone who knows their stuff or a specialist service or industry, that's where we all end up.   do you watch Salvage Hunters - The Restorers?     I would put money on all of the restorers being on the spectrum.   Probably undiagnosed - they have their niche where they can be expert and the only conversations they have are about their pet subject - heaven..

Yes, that's true. Teachers will talk to her about her cycling when she's not in class or even let her include it in her work so she's more motivated. 

My daughter is into falconry - and almost any other animal - she's becoming very well respected in the right circles.     

I'm finding a large proportion of youngsters 'really' into animals are on the spectrum - that includes the horse-addicts.

Two aspies can talk to each other for hours - an hour with an NT wears me out.

She loves animals, horse riding, cycling. She will talk about these for hours.