Walking out of school...

Hi - most autistic kids crave continuity so having a bunch of teachers all teaching the same subject will completely mess her up - trying to learn the work and function with the social side of dealing with a teacher means she'll not get on with their different teaching styles.

One of the biggest things with autism is it's like the fight or flight is at 100% all the time - so put in a position where fight is not allowed, flight is the only option.      She is likely to be terrified of the thought of having yet another random person telling her to do things a different way from yesterday and different again tomorrow - her only logical option is to avoid and just walk away - she's reached the limit of tolerance.    when her brain is fried like that, then why bother with the next class - go home now.   Go to the safe place.

The other problem is we are programmed as a child to be good - do the right thing - don't answer back - don't question authority - don't embarrass parents etc. - she knows she's breaking her programming so she can't process the dichotomy.     You will get a random output - tears, shouting, maybe violence - her basic program is temporarily busted and she needs time to decompress and reboot.

The problem is the growing anxiety of knowing that she'll have to face the same stress in the morning - knowing that she's going to get stressed to breaking for no reason apart from a teacher-scheduling issue.     He brain logic will want to just avoid the whole thing - so she'll get difficult and very reluctant to go to school at all - none of it makes any sense to her.

Is there any way she can get to have just one teacher for 'project'?    Or maybe get to do something else that fits into her logic and routine world-  something that she can process and make sense of?

Another problem is we are taught not to lie - so lessons that require imagination and false worlds can be difficult - to deliberately make a falsehood - again, not easy to reconcile with the original basic programming.

Another issue is other kids - they are often naughty and break all the rules - but we can't reconcile others being bad and getting away with it - it messes with the logic and basic programming - another reason for stress and the need to escape.

I'd suggest watching an episode of Star Trek Next Gen - "The Offspring"  the one where Mr Data builds a daughter and she is classed as an appliance so to be disassembled - that might give you an isight into the autistic mind.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Offspring_(Star_Trek:_The_Next_Generation)

Hope this helps.

Hi - most autistic kids crave continuity so having a bunch of teachers all teaching the same subject will completely mess her up - trying to learn the work and function with the social side of dealing with a teacher means she'll not get on with their different teaching styles.

One of the biggest things with autism is it's like the fight or flight is at 100% all the time - so put in a position where fight is not allowed, flight is the only option.      She is likely to be terrified of the thought of having yet another random person telling her to do things a different way from yesterday and different again tomorrow - her only logical option is to avoid and just walk away - she's reached the limit of tolerance.    when her brain is fried like that, then why bother with the next class - go home now.   Go to the safe place.

The other problem is we are programmed as a child to be good - do the right thing - don't answer back - don't question authority - don't embarrass parents etc. - she knows she's breaking her programming so she can't process the dichotomy.     You will get a random output - tears, shouting, maybe violence - her basic program is temporarily busted and she needs time to decompress and reboot.

The problem is the growing anxiety of knowing that she'll have to face the same stress in the morning - knowing that she's going to get stressed to breaking for no reason apart from a teacher-scheduling issue.     He brain logic will want to just avoid the whole thing - so she'll get difficult and very reluctant to go to school at all - none of it makes any sense to her.

Is there any way she can get to have just one teacher for 'project'?    Or maybe get to do something else that fits into her logic and routine world-  something that she can process and make sense of?

Another problem is we are taught not to lie - so lessons that require imagination and false worlds can be difficult - to deliberately make a falsehood - again, not easy to reconcile with the original basic programming.

Another issue is other kids - they are often naughty and break all the rules - but we can't reconcile others being bad and getting away with it - it messes with the logic and basic programming - another reason for stress and the need to escape.

I'd suggest watching an episode of Star Trek Next Gen - "The Offspring"  the one where Mr Data builds a daughter and she is classed as an appliance so to be disassembled - that might give you an isight into the autistic mind.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Offspring_(Star_Trek:_The_Next_Generation)

Hope this helps.

Thank you, I totally understand where you are coming from and a few teachers have said similar things as well. It is messing her brain up and teachers luckily understand that but unfortunately she can't stop doing the lesson and she can't have just one teacher since they all teach different things in the lesson. When she's not in the lesson, teachers will talk to her about her favourite things which helps but just not in 'Project'. They will even ask her to sit in the classroom to watch youtube on bikes (which is one of her hobbies) but this won't even work. 

One of her teachers said 'Come into the classroom so your safe' and my daughter replied 'No. I'm going home because that's safe', so it's like you said. Thanks again x