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My son had a visit from someone from the Early Years Team - opinions?

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My boy who is 4 has aspergers, he currently struggles socially and finds it difficult at his school. He's very intelligent for his age, his main interests are reading and learning. He fears going in to school and obssesses about seeing certain kids and panics every day and meltdowns after school. He has quite a lot of trouble paying attention and making / keeping friends. He gets picked on already.. he's also very easy to upset and sensitive.

I have a feeling it will just get worse as he gets older (it doesn't help that he's ginger either.. doh! :) There is a school just a few minutes away which is for children with asperger and asd's. I gave it a lot of thought and maybe this could be a good option for him.

I spoke to his school about it, who got in touch with 'The Early Years Team' and a lady came in and saw my boy for an hour to see how he was getting on. We had a chat afterwards, and she basically said:

She didn't think he has aspergers and not to be concerned and that he was a very nice and clever boy. Also one of the first things she said to me was the problem could be me and not actually him, and suggested maybe going to a Parents Group to get some advice on parenting..

I found this a bit offensive, and she decided all of this after being there for 1 hour and after talking to me for a few minutes. She mentioned my boy seems happy at school, which lead on to a conversation about me saying he's a lot different in different circumstances to how he is at home and to how he is being shy at school etc. She then claimed people with Aspergers act the same - whether they are at home or school. I found this very bizarre statement.

I'm a bit lost for what to do next? I was also a bit lost for words whilst speaking to this lady.


Any help would be really appreciated!

Thankyou!

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  • Early years team are asked to help and support a child under 5, they can come into school or home and work with the child. They also can make the necessary referals to get the statementing process going.  Bounce had the privelage of this before mainstream nursery.

    I would firstly phone or write to this womand supervisor or manager and complain about her. If you have a dx you can also enclose a copy of this in the letter making the manager/supervisor aware of your childs dx.

    I personally would contact SEN Parent Partnership and get them to help you start the statementing process has you will not be able to get your child in a SEN school without a statement. Whats the schools opinion on your childs needs and difficulties??? Has SENAR would be asking them for educational advice once the statementing process gets up and running.

    When you do send parental views into SENAR enclose has many documents (copies) of doctors reports etc so they get a better view of what is going on.

    Some people can be quite ignorant and rude when it comes to speaking to a parent after seeing a child for assessment. Bounce ASD was ignored for 3 1/2 + years due to regression and ignorance and he had been attending paed for 3 years and nursery since he was 18 months!!

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  • Early years team are asked to help and support a child under 5, they can come into school or home and work with the child. They also can make the necessary referals to get the statementing process going.  Bounce had the privelage of this before mainstream nursery.

    I would firstly phone or write to this womand supervisor or manager and complain about her. If you have a dx you can also enclose a copy of this in the letter making the manager/supervisor aware of your childs dx.

    I personally would contact SEN Parent Partnership and get them to help you start the statementing process has you will not be able to get your child in a SEN school without a statement. Whats the schools opinion on your childs needs and difficulties??? Has SENAR would be asking them for educational advice once the statementing process gets up and running.

    When you do send parental views into SENAR enclose has many documents (copies) of doctors reports etc so they get a better view of what is going on.

    Some people can be quite ignorant and rude when it comes to speaking to a parent after seeing a child for assessment. Bounce ASD was ignored for 3 1/2 + years due to regression and ignorance and he had been attending paed for 3 years and nursery since he was 18 months!!

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