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Advice on choosing a uni

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Hi,

My daughter was diagnosed with ASD at the start of lockdown just before she was 16 and about to do her GCSEs. She is now in L6 and keen to go to uni after her A levels. I am wondering if any of you have any advice about how we can help and support her in making her decisions and any tips anyone may have who have been through this process. 

She is in a mainstream school and receives no additional support at the moment, which is OK as she has been at the school since she was 11. I know she is concerned about the transition to uni and move away from the friends she has/familiar locations etc and is clear on some of what she thinks she needs to help her (quiet spaces/small classes etc). 

If anyone has any wise words they could pass on I would be hugely grateful!

TIASlight smile

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  • Off the wall thinking - if you're paying for a UK boarding school, have you considered renting a 2-bed flat for your daughter and hiring a 24/7 contract helper for her during the term times?       Someone to 'mother' her - cook & clean, drive her around etc.    It would solve a lot of your immediate issues by the application of finances freed up from the boarding school fees.

    If she's been in the uk for more than 3 years, DSA.should help her with any extra needs.

    My daughter was privately educated all the way through - university was a lot cheaper!

  • in reply to Plastic

    Your daughter was privately educated!

    When I was growing up I thought private schools were the stuff of fictional television series.

    Then at uni I discovered that half the students had gone  to private or grammar schools.  It was a different world.

  • in reply to Robert124

    You'd be surprised - almost all the people who send their kids to private schools are not rich - they sacrifice everything for their children's education - my car is 19 years old - my wife's is 16 years old.   

    Most of the cars in the car park were not new.      Of course, there were some with plenty of money - but mostly is was people wanting the best for their kids.       The very best, highly motivated teachers, classes of just 12, the best facilities - it's well worth the high cost..

    My daughter went to some very well-known schools with extremely famous alumni.    Their standards were so high that they act as a feeder schools for Oxford & Cambridge.   She actually attended a boy's school for 6th form.  Smiley

    My daughter graduated last year with a 1st Hons.

    I remember a work colleague saying it was a waste of time educating girls-  they're only going to get married - until he found out that a millionaire businessman friend's daughter (who went to the same school as my daughter) had been offered the job of a lifetime during her summer uni break job because she was able to speak properly and could interface to the wealthy clients that the company dealt with.

    As they say in Kingsman, "Manners make'eth the man." (or woman).

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