Is my son autistic?

My son is 8 years old and for a while now I’ve thought he has autism. There are many things over the past few years that have led me to think this. His dislike of loud noises, smells and the feel of certain things. He struggles in social situations to the point where we have been unable to go places due to this. More so in lockdown. Has struggled to see friends/family and broken down because of this. He sometimes ends up in tears where he’s sobbing but can never tell me why and it’s hard to get him back. Hes recently started making random noises such as growling. School say  he’s fine and as far as I know they don’t notice all of these things. Is he just masking? Am I being dramatic thinking he is on the spectrum? I’ve taken him to our local children’s centre and he saw a worker for a few weeks and she was swaying towards anxiety but then she stopped seeing him. Do I go down the road of getting him assessed somewhere down the line? He doesn’t obviously show traits and they are mainly at home so I feel like I would have a big fight on my hands and do I want to put him through it or do I just accept it and we carry on as we are? Sorry for the long post!

  • I have a 10 year old daughter and it can cause issues too. Thank you, good luck with it all x 

  • I have been doing exactly the same. I've kept a sort of diary of things that she does and I've got almost a year's worth of bits that I've written down. My daughter's behaviour really affects our family, especially her younger sister who takes a lot of the brunt of her frustrations and so it needs sorting out. I just want to be able to understand what is causing the issues and how we can help her. I hope you manage to find someone who is able to help you with your son 

  • I’m in the same position too. I think he is definitely on the spectrum but for some reason I’m always second guessing myself and thinking is it just me being dramatic? But I know it isn’t. He is manageable at the minute and school don’t seem to see any problems but I worry as he gets older things could progress and he could struggle at secondary school. So if I don’t do anything about it I would be failing him. I’ve been writing everything down that he does like certain behaviours and things that have happened and the school senco told me to call my gp. I don’t know what is stopping me?! 

  • This sounds very much like my daughter who is 8. My husband and I have wondered since she was little whether she was on the spectrum or not. We are just starting to get the ball rolling but to be honest it feels like a minefield. I only found this thread as we are wondering whether to try and get her seen privately or to start down the nhs route or whether we are just being dramatic in the first instance. It would be interesting to find other parents' opinions who have been in the same boat!

  • Hello Rosie2,

    The NAS website has a page on information for parents who think that their child might be autistic. Please check out this link: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/diagnosis/pre-diagnosis/parents-and-carers

    All the best,

    Karin Mod