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transport bus to school application declined. son now at home uneducated??

smileforlife

hi all, i am currently feeling very frustrated, my autistic son (8) goes to mainstream school, with full time 1 on 1 t.a  through his statement, highest band. but mobility needs are rewarded as low. this was fine, until he slowly got worse and now i cant even get him to school due to him running off. the last day i walked him to school he almost got ran over twice, and ran off for ten minutes, i was terrified, i had to drag him home, it was awful, for him and me. then my dad was taking us in car as the educational welfare officer came round the last day i couldnt get him there. she said since his attendance was 100% it wont matter if he is off for a week or so until a bus is sorted for him, this was mid december. the next day she called to say the request was declined. so off we wnt again...in dads car, then we couldnt do that again anymore as he went so crazy he ran out the car, and wouldnt get his seat belt on, screaming, i had to hold him down in the car home. so i called her back. she said until his annual review is brought forward from june to jan then nothing can be donw. i have called the office, i have called the educational welfares mobile, left mssages, she isnt replying, noone will help or discuss it. school dont know whats going on either.

so now i have my son at home, i cant even take him for fresh air until after tea for a walk when i am on my own, and the other children are at home with their dad as he needs full on 1 on 1. so he is stuck in all day, bored. he wont do work with me, ed welfare said that doesnt matter, as trying to teach a autistic child wont work as i am not a teacher. plus i have a 7 month old too at home. 

i am really lost. he is too bright for a special school, as he is very very inteligant, but behavioural he is at a very low.

everything else is in place, pastoral, outreach support etc etc, its just the transport.

has anyone here had similar problems? if so how do i go about it. i feel so lost and i think he does too. xxx

thankyou xxx

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  • thanks for the replies.

    it doesnt make a diff' if i get high mobility for him or not, as that gets 'me' a car to take hin, i cant drive with him in the car, noone will. as the experience if he decides something isnt right, goes awful for him and the driver, screaming, shouting, spitting, etc etc. the family fund called, they offered me a free bely buckle ( which i can afford to buy) then money to take him to school, or pay for someone to take him, again, money isnt the issue, i would pay for taxis out of the carers money, as i feel this is what  its for in a way, again, cant get him in/out taxi, and then i have the problem of getting him from car to school. 

    the ed dept at council said he wont get transport for autism.

    so now i am lost.

    ed' welfare is off for a week due to family death, and noonw else will look at the case.

    school rang friday and suggested 'dangling a carrott' techique. which annoyed me, as if i havent tried this, for the last 8 years. it did work, now doesnt.

    they said they can reward him more for walking there and back. it doesnt work, tried it before. he seams to have gotton worse with age. past 6 months. so the annual review is being brough forward six months, but even then he wont get transport.

    as for bus pass, we are not on a bus route, its a 20-25 min walk through the cut throughs. ans he is scared of bus sounds and wont go on one, i tried it with ear plugs, but still doesnt work.

    its the danger of the whole matter. when he runs he doesnt come back and runs in roads.

    next week i have him and his 6 yr old off as my partner is starting a new job, he had to leave 7  months ago when my son got too much and needed 1 on 1 all the time. but we cant do it any longer.

    its a awful situation to be in. xxx

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  • thanks for the replies.

    it doesnt make a diff' if i get high mobility for him or not, as that gets 'me' a car to take hin, i cant drive with him in the car, noone will. as the experience if he decides something isnt right, goes awful for him and the driver, screaming, shouting, spitting, etc etc. the family fund called, they offered me a free bely buckle ( which i can afford to buy) then money to take him to school, or pay for someone to take him, again, money isnt the issue, i would pay for taxis out of the carers money, as i feel this is what  its for in a way, again, cant get him in/out taxi, and then i have the problem of getting him from car to school. 

    the ed dept at council said he wont get transport for autism.

    so now i am lost.

    ed' welfare is off for a week due to family death, and noonw else will look at the case.

    school rang friday and suggested 'dangling a carrott' techique. which annoyed me, as if i havent tried this, for the last 8 years. it did work, now doesnt.

    they said they can reward him more for walking there and back. it doesnt work, tried it before. he seams to have gotton worse with age. past 6 months. so the annual review is being brough forward six months, but even then he wont get transport.

    as for bus pass, we are not on a bus route, its a 20-25 min walk through the cut throughs. ans he is scared of bus sounds and wont go on one, i tried it with ear plugs, but still doesnt work.

    its the danger of the whole matter. when he runs he doesnt come back and runs in roads.

    next week i have him and his 6 yr old off as my partner is starting a new job, he had to leave 7  months ago when my son got too much and needed 1 on 1 all the time. but we cant do it any longer.

    its a awful situation to be in. xxx

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