Disgusting behaviour from a T/A!!!!

It's really awful but sadly seems to happen all too often. My son has recently had various TA's and teachers make remarks such as 'my 5 year old behaves better than you' and you need to control your emotions'. Any complaints I've made have been brushed aside with comments such as 'no staff would speak like that, perhaps he misunderstood' etc. They have just permanently excluded him and it's a relief taht he's out of there to be honest.   

tiredeyes said:

Droping Bounce and his 2 siblings off at school this morning and bounce wanted to wander around the playground. He went over to where nursery teachers/t/a's were collecting children for the morning and one of the t/a's decided it was ok to copy Bounce and laugh at what he was doing!!

I just couldnt believe what I was seeing!, and then she had the cheek to say 'oh you copying your imaginary friend'!!!.

I asked her what does she think she is doing, and after pointing out that taking the 'p' out of Bounce is not acceptable she laughingly said 'oh but he look so funny'! I couldnt hold myself in any longer and raised my voice a little and pointed out 'Bounce is Autistic and its nothink to laugh about!'

Is this acceptable behaviour for a member of staff at school????

Head of nursery came over and asked what was going on after t/a still on a lil chuckle tried to apologise but i was soo shocked!, thats the kind of behaviour you expect from a young child not a adult!

Unfortunately its just another thing happening from another member of staff from the school (5th incident in 2 months!!) I dont get taken seriously when I complain and truly am sick of the behaviour the staff at the school feel is ok!!

no, it most certainly is NOT acceptable behaviour for a teacher/staff member at ANY school, for any reason

if you dont feel you are taken seriously, then go and be seriously taken. go find someone in charge, above those people, and be taken very seriously, go to you rlocal mp, go the government, have details, names dates times and what happend and how it made you feel and how it affects you and your children/family, and why this is not acceptable behaviour in a teacher who you trust your children with to be taught and treated in a way they are helped rather than hindered or god forbid made worse

Good for you for confronting this T/A.  I wonder, do the teaching staff ever go on courses to learn about Autism or does anyone ever visit these nurseries and schools to monitor how they interact and teach children with autism?

Just a thought.

Children dont need this kind of behaviour from someone who is supposed to be someone they look up to.  Its as if its giving other children the green card to copy too!.. deeming it acceptable to do this.

No, its not on. Maybe see the head again for a long chat or go higher.

hi - this sort of thing happens when people don't understand autism.  I've been in positions with my son where my heart wd sink trying to get thru to such people, some of them who had a responsibility to look after him.  It doesn't bode well.  They don't "get it".  So no, I don't think you over-reacted, you were defending your son.  The TA probably didn't mean any harm, but that's not much comfort, if any.  All our children need an environment where staff understand them + how autism affects them.  If they haven't got that then life for all will be much more difficult.