Hi all,
I am really struggling and would welcome some advice. My 11 daughter s behaviour is becoming more and more difficult and is having a massive impact on the family. She is desperate for more independence and I am compromising a lot to allow her to have it, letting her walk to school with friends and go to the park. However, it feels like it’s never enough and she is constantly pushing for more and more. There are some things I won’t let go eg going out in make up when she knows she’s not allowed or sneaking money out in her phone case, but these things become huge arguments with her screaming and shouting and often hitting her hand hard repeatedly on the wall or hitting her legs. I totally get the concept of choosing your battles, but what do you do when they try and do something that you find unacceptable? I know she feels a lot of anxiety about leaving primary school in a couple of weeks and she feels angry at all that she has missed out on in year 6. She is completely unable to articulate her feelings about all of this, so it’s a very stressful time. I feel the situation we are in is really affecting our relationship and I think she hates me. She won’t talk to me about anything that’s happening in her life, particularly any problems. I want to try and improve things with her, I’m really worried that as she gets older we’ll grow even further apart. She has ASD which manifests as internalised anxiety. Thank you!
