Hello All,
To cut a very long story short, I'm mum to my wonderful daughter who is now 18. She has achieved so much in that gained GCSE's at school then went on to College and did a 2 year college course. She's now doing a 12 month internship working with children, as this is what she wants to do with her life.
She has always had issues with time keeping, and the concept of time, thus resulting in bad time keeping, always rushing and being late. There are times when she can be on time but these periods are short lived and do not last for any significant length of time. Her current employers are struggling with this, and don't really understand,that these traits are all part of aspergers. There have also been fractions with other members of the team (Hattie is 1 of a team of 3 female interns aged 18-20yo) Hattie gets v stressed, but to the untrained eye looks like she's coping and everything is fine and dandy! But on the inside its a very different story.
Hattie doesn't find communicating easy especially about how she's feeling and inparticular letting other's know how she feels, or if she has any worries or is struggling. So when Hattie explodes ppl are quite surprised and wonder where it all came from..!
At the moment she's been told to stay at home until the new year. However, Hattie has explained that this isn't the best thing for her and they have given her other work to do. Let me explain fully, Hattie and the team go into schools and hold activity days with the children, Hattie leads a group of children on her own teaching puppets.
The reason she has been asked to stay home was that she swore during an event, which although is wrong maybe other parents out there will understand and appreciate why.
I am being told to back off from Hattie and basically not to interfere. Altho nothing has been said to me, the emails i wrote to her boss were not replied to.
I thought by emailing him and explaining about asperger's and how Hattie ticks would help him, however i think he has taken this as me interferring and meddling. He hasn't told me directly but has told Hattie that he just wants to deal with her.
Meanwhile what he fails to consider is who is helping her at home, to motivate and all the other things that a parent of a child with aspergers has to do..?
Help, I need to chat with other mums in this situation to help me understand. maybe you've been in through what i'm going through now. Maybe you are a young person with aspergers who has had similar experiences and can share with hattie coping strategies.
Please get in touch, and offer any advise, support and share your own experiences.
My daughter was only officially diagnosed July 2012, altho as a parent i have been aware of differences all her life. The only reason it was left so late was that school never picked up on it, she was bright and achieved and worked well at school, even tho she spent most of her school life on her own, was constantly late.
Please get in touch, I would love to hear from you,
Many Thanks,