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Clothing issues - Help!

Marce

Hi this is my first ever post!  My almost 4 year old daughter  is about to have her assessment (we got a date but then lockdown hallened so we're top of the list once things get moving again).  There is absolutely no doubt that she will get a diagnosis of autism.  

We currently have a very specific issue with out daughter.  She will not go to, touch or even look at her daddy unless he is wearing a jumper or a striped shirt.  If hes wearing a t shirt it's like he's invisible to her.  She wont turn around if he calls her name, goes rigid when he picks her up. Etc.  The instant he gets a jumper on she gets very excited and everything is back to normal.  We've tried different colours of t shirt, different fabrics, patterns etc.  We wondered whether she may have an issue with his arms being on display or not liking the arm.hair, but she has no such issue when he pushes up the jumper or shirt sleeves.  

If someone else wears one of.his jumpers.she gets upset and wants us to remove it.  If she sees a jumper around the house she'll.immediatleh take it to him.  

Has anyone else had a similar experience? Do we try and push her by him not wearing jumper or shirt or should he wear what makes her comfortable and happy?  He ended up wearing a jumper on the beach on holiday last year so not.ideal! 

She only started talking in january so we csnt ask her about this.

Thank you in advance.

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  • She doesn’t recognise him that’s why. Without her desired top on he is a stranger to her. 

    I was the same with my Nan. She was only my Nan when wearing glasses. Without them she was an intruder and I would be scared of her

  • in reply to NAS65871

    Ah ok, thank you! That makes sense and is kind of what we thought was likely to be the case.  It's just all a massive learning curve and we're reading as many books as we can!  

    So I'm guessing, given you refer to that situation in the past tense, that as you got older you were able to realise that your nan was the same person with and without glasses.    Are we likely to be in this situation for a good while? How old were you when you came to realise that she was not, in fact, an intruder?!  Was it a gradual thing rather than sudden? Sorry if I'm asking too much.  My husband was feeling very rejected by our daughter and this has really helped him think about it differently and realise that shes not rejecting HIM, shes rejecting hat she sees as the random man in our house who keeps trying to pick her up!! 

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  • in reply to NAS65871

    Ah ok, thank you! That makes sense and is kind of what we thought was likely to be the case.  It's just all a massive learning curve and we're reading as many books as we can!  

    So I'm guessing, given you refer to that situation in the past tense, that as you got older you were able to realise that your nan was the same person with and without glasses.    Are we likely to be in this situation for a good while? How old were you when you came to realise that she was not, in fact, an intruder?!  Was it a gradual thing rather than sudden? Sorry if I'm asking too much.  My husband was feeling very rejected by our daughter and this has really helped him think about it differently and realise that shes not rejecting HIM, shes rejecting hat she sees as the random man in our house who keeps trying to pick her up!! 

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