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sonicmum

Hi,

 My 8 year old son was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome 3 years ago. I am a single mum and we have had our ups and downs but until recently we had seemed to be coping (ish). I have had professional input which has been helpful. However with the festive season approaching I am finding my sons behaviours very frustrating. He appears to be having difficulties at school which have resulted in him "losing it" and becoming aggressive, both at home and towards me and his older sister. As I have this problem every year around this time I was just putting it down to his normal festive behaviour. However it seems to be worse this year.

 My son tonight said that he wanted to die because he is different to the others in his class and that he is not good at the same things as them. He has managed to make friends but these friendships are tenuous and not always reciprocated and with his recent aggressive outbursts, which have caused further issues for him within the school, he is feeling very low.

 I would like to ask if there is anyone out there that has some advice on how to deal with this phase of what appears to me as depression! or How best to support my son in his difficulties without further alienating him from his peers?. I am going to the school in the morning to arrange to meet with his class teacher and the SENCO to see what they say and how best to deal with these unhappy feelings that he is having, but would appreciate hearing from anyone with some advice or suggestions.

I would also like to ask if anyone has any experiences of the gluten free diet? and has it helped? or if anyone can suggest suppliments that may help my son with this current difficulty.

As I am struggling with this and finding it very worrying I would appreciate any help or advice that is on offer.

 

 

  • I am the grand parent of a 6year old boy, who has only recentley been diagnosed. I was relieved to read your comment as all of this is so new to us, and after a huge improvement in his behaviour at school, two weeks ago he suddenly had a really terrible weekend. On Monday we mentioned it to his class teacher who pointed out that due to the christmas play and concerts all the routine has gone out of the window. He has had a few outbursts since and hurt other children, his teacher is very good and in order to try and keep him on an even keel we have taken to spending extra time on a one to one basis in the evening, when we try reassure him and explain what the programme for school is the next day. We are lucky that we live very close to him so can be there to give his Mum and Dad the extra support that he needs without his siblings missing out. Another thing that we have noticed is that in school there is another little lad (8yrs old) who also has aspergers, who comes to play and where as seperatley they can be a handful, they sit and play quietly for hours without falling out, and are happy.

    I will be watching your post with interest for any advice from people with more experiance.

  • Hi loobylou74,

    I've edited your post because we don't allow people to post personal information on the community. I hope you understand.

    Thanks,

    philippab - mod

  • HI Sonic mum, my son is autistic but the same age as yours and in main stream school.He also starts to act up and become more stressed as we approach christmas and struggles more at school .I have even considerd asking to home school him december but as thats an absolute last resort im seeing how this year goes.i know for my son its a combination of the excitment of something happening and also all the kids at school seem to get louder and more excited.Also the school timetable goes out the window with all the preperations for chritmas done in school. I don't have any advice on suppliments i'm afraid but in the bouts of depression my son has and times when he says he wishes he was dead i just have to make extra time for him.i sometimes lay on the bed with him for ages just telling him how great and clever and amazing he is.Even if he doesn't believe me.School should also give him a quiet room so he can escape the noise and the madness for a short time and then re join the class.We sound like we have quite simaler boys even with a different diagnosis although my gp has suggested asperges would be his diagnosis of my son.Anyway if you need someone to talk to who's going through the same.

    [edited to remove personal details by philippab - mod]

     Anytime.x   

  • hi, I haven't had to deal with depression in my son.  He isn't aspergers.  It can be difficult in a mainstream school for children with asd so you're right to enquire with the school as he may need extra support or other changes made which may help him.  If you do a search you'll find posts about it which may be helpful.  I hope you manage to get things sorted out soon + that things improve for you + your son.  Others will be along to give good advice soon.  bw