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Controlling behaviour

Just me

Hi I’m new this is very hard for me as I’m a private person but can’t go on much longer 

my daughter is 22 is on the ASD also has behavioural issues I’ve coped with this for years the problem is she controls everything my food cupboard is full of cups with water in she is obsessed with it,  goes ballistic if I touch any of it also rams everything in her wardrobe and god forbid I touch that.

i just need to know why there must be a reason she does this is obsessed with me too constantly asking what I’m doing she is also selective mute only talks at home not perfect but I understand and very very repetitious.

i do have access to respite I just need help I’m worn out I do everything for her as she’s incontinent sorry I just need to off load and hopefully find answers Cry

  • Hi ,

    Thank you for sharing this with the community. I'm really sorry to hear that you're having a tough time at the moment. You may like to contact our Autism Helpline team who can provide you with information and advice . You can contact the team via telephone on 0808 800 4104 (Monday to Thursday 10am to 4pm, Friday 9am to 3pm). Please note that the Helpline is experiencing a high volume of calls and it may take a couple of attempts before you get through to speak to an advisor. Alternatively, should you prefer to send a message, you can do so via their webform:

    https://www.autism.org.uk/services/helplines/main/questions.aspx

    I hope this helps,

    ChloeMod

  • in reply to Just me

    I imagine if must be tough - I wish I could offer suggestions but like you said her learning difficulties make it difficult for her to comprehend - maybe contact the NAS autism helpline to see if they have any tips? Just an idea. Hope you all stay safe and well, and I wish you the best of luck in finding a way forward. 

  • in reply to Anthony

    Hi thankyou it’s just exhausting she has to have routine unfortunately due to this virus her anxiety is through the roof it breaks my heart to see her self harming and hitting head but she just doesn’t understand I just want her to be happy.

    but as I said due to here learning disability she doesn’t understand so we get the brunt of it thanks for replying 

    stay safe x

    karen

  • Hi, I can’t offer a definitive answer but an insight - I at times can be a little controlling (not to the extent you mention above) but it’s because I struggle with change and the unknown so I at times end up being a bit controlling through fear that my routine or surroundings will change, so what you talk of might be an exaggerated form of what I experience.