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Struggling family!

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Hello, I'm new here & looking for advice.

My six year old son is going through diagnosis for autism/adhd. He has terrible outbursts of anger/hatred towards myself, dad, brother & the dog. These outbursts aren't really triggered by anything in particular, some days just coming home from school starts him off. We go for a walk or to the park after school most days & can be out for anything from 20 minutes to 2 hours depending on how his day has been & how he feels. He is constantly banging doors, cupboards, drawers & anything else that makes a noise but, he doesn't like noise & cries or yells if it gets too much. He has broken 3 of the kitchen cupboard doors over the last week & when we try to tell him it's not acceptable to break these things & try to give him consequences for his actions he screams, hits, kicks, spits or laughs at us, slams doors, bangs on the walls & throws things. We have tried everything that the professionals have suggested & other things we've found online but to no avail. He doesn't understand his emotions so is unable to tell us if he's upset, angry or happy.He's recently been rejected by iscan due to age & prematurity (he was born at 28 weeks). Has anyone been through anything like this or can anyone suggest something we can try please?

He is an adorable but frustrated/confused little boy & this is heart breaking as I feel as though we're not parenting him correctly. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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  • Hi there, 

    Sorry, I don't know what an  iscan is, 

    I can relate to the things you're saying. My son is now 15 but was diagnosed with ASD at 6. It's hard to try and summerise nearly 10 years of it to try and say how I relate to what you're saying. Extreme anxiety was the cause for my son but he couldn't verbalise how he was feeling. It's only now he's older that we know why. He's shattered my windscreen with his head, punched holes on my doors, walls. Called me awful names. He cant stand string smells, noises, they stress him out. The absolute root cause was bullying in school. He kept it all to himself and only came out when he was seeing a mental health therapist in high school. I am not saying this would be the same for your boy but somethings is triggering him. She took him back to nursery in a timeline of events and it all came out. I am not saying this would be the case with your son but there will be a reason why he's acting how he is. It sounds like you're doing everything right just keep being there for him and eventually he will open up. 

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  • Hi there, 

    Sorry, I don't know what an  iscan is, 

    I can relate to the things you're saying. My son is now 15 but was diagnosed with ASD at 6. It's hard to try and summerise nearly 10 years of it to try and say how I relate to what you're saying. Extreme anxiety was the cause for my son but he couldn't verbalise how he was feeling. It's only now he's older that we know why. He's shattered my windscreen with his head, punched holes on my doors, walls. Called me awful names. He cant stand string smells, noises, they stress him out. The absolute root cause was bullying in school. He kept it all to himself and only came out when he was seeing a mental health therapist in high school. I am not saying this would be the same for your boy but somethings is triggering him. She took him back to nursery in a timeline of events and it all came out. I am not saying this would be the case with your son but there will be a reason why he's acting how he is. It sounds like you're doing everything right just keep being there for him and eventually he will open up. 

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