Hi all
My son is in a ASD unit at a special needs school. He has complex needs (ASD, GDD, Extremely rare brain cyst in parietal lobe, partial hearing loss in right ear, and undiagnosed cerival spin abnormalities and undiagnosed epilepsy)
He is struggling greatly with the environment, he express this says to many people and too noisy. He behaviour has got declined greatly over the past few months with more violent behaviour towards his peers, his teachers and himself. I have only recently been made aware of how serious the problem has become and I have been proactive in trying to help his teachers tackle this beahviour. It has been agreed to do a reassessment of needs and urgent review of his ECHP.
However, I am at a loss of what to do. His behaviour is really good at home with very rare meltdowns occurring. I personally feel he has learnt that if he lashes out he will be removed from the group environment and takin to a room where he works solely with a teaching assistant. I have been punishing bad behaviour that happens at school during home time, to ensure he know his actions come with consequence. However, he tells me i am punishing because he is sad or scared. Now i feel bad as i feel as i am punishing the emotion he is unable to verbally express at school. He teachers have confirmed his lash out beahviour is not premeditated, just occurs when something is happening in class.
I really do not know what to do now, he struggles greatly with communication and cannot express his needs or wants. But what do I do if he is not good in these groups settings, if school environment is the issue and he struggles with this daily. I am adding to the problem by taking him.
I have talked to other special needs schools in the area and they have said he will be put in a group setting, do not get me wrong I understand the importance of social inclusion. I just am at the point that where I am questioning is this kind of stress is good for him and others.
Any advice or options will be greatly appreciated.
