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MrsBobgfish

My 14yr daughter has recently been diagnosed with Aspergers.  She is a HUGE BTS fan and they will be playing a concert in London in July.

We went to a concert last year which had a mix result. She had a huge meltdown going into the venue but was able to stay for the concert. After a lot of talking from Mummy. At that stage, we thought she was suffering from social anxiety with panic attacks. However, the BTS concert will be three time if not four times bigger (it’s at Twickenham) and I am extremely worried how she will handle it. She wants to go so badly!

We visited London last summer and once again she had a meltdown after just a few hours of being in the city. The number of people was just too overwhelming for her.

To add to any complication, we live in Switzerland so any British accepted disability ID that would be accepted by the venue we would not have.

Does anyone have any suggestions, thoughts, ideas?

TiA

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  • Have a look at herbal remedies for anxiety and stress. For instance, ginger works as a mild sedative and can aid sleep, I’ve been using it instead of sleeping tablets to help my insomnia and I’ve had amazing results! Homeopathic chemists or herbalist would offer a wide range of natural remedies that may help. I hope you both have a wonderful time at the concert 

  • in reply to NAS65632

    I have ASD and so does my daughter. My advice is this:

    Plan everything in advance and talk about it loads together, look at pictures of the venue and of crowds, listen to the music whilst looking. Plan everything you are doing, how to get there, where you are going to eat, sleep etc. That way there is less that is uncertain and unpredictable for her. The more she can imagine it in advance, the easier I think it can be. In terms of being in London, plan for managing the stress of all the people too, consider ear plugs, sunglasses, wearing a baseball cap (it limits your vision and you can control how much you can see in front of you), maybe have some chillout music with you to listen to on headphones. When she has a meltdown, just accept it, it's how she resets herself in stressful situations and comes to terms with things. She survives them fine and so do you so don't make a big deal. Autism is really well known about in the UK and if you need help in train stations and at venues, people are usually happy to assist. Give her time to get used to things and to get in to things, she may just need space to find her own way with things. Hope it goes well, I took my daughter to London recently and after a meltdown on arrival it went really well and she loved it. She just needed to let her feelings out and get used to a new environment. Change is hard for us Auties, and even when we want the change (in environment for example - like going to London for a concert), that doesn't make our brain any different, our brains need time to adjust but definitely planning and preparing helps loads. 

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  • in reply to NAS65632

    I have ASD and so does my daughter. My advice is this:

    Plan everything in advance and talk about it loads together, look at pictures of the venue and of crowds, listen to the music whilst looking. Plan everything you are doing, how to get there, where you are going to eat, sleep etc. That way there is less that is uncertain and unpredictable for her. The more she can imagine it in advance, the easier I think it can be. In terms of being in London, plan for managing the stress of all the people too, consider ear plugs, sunglasses, wearing a baseball cap (it limits your vision and you can control how much you can see in front of you), maybe have some chillout music with you to listen to on headphones. When she has a meltdown, just accept it, it's how she resets herself in stressful situations and comes to terms with things. She survives them fine and so do you so don't make a big deal. Autism is really well known about in the UK and if you need help in train stations and at venues, people are usually happy to assist. Give her time to get used to things and to get in to things, she may just need space to find her own way with things. Hope it goes well, I took my daughter to London recently and after a meltdown on arrival it went really well and she loved it. She just needed to let her feelings out and get used to a new environment. Change is hard for us Auties, and even when we want the change (in environment for example - like going to London for a concert), that doesn't make our brain any different, our brains need time to adjust but definitely planning and preparing helps loads. 

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