Parent of a 5 year old with autism and adhd

Hi there am new to this so not sure how it works Thinking my son was diagnosed when he was 3 and a half with autism and just recently been diagnosed with adhd I also have a 3 and 1 year old. I am just woudering how every one copes with say to day life as Pensivessible 9 out of 10 of the times I feel like am not doing a great job I lose my temper quite alot Pensive is it me or dose anyone else? Tia xx