Forgetting loosing belongings

Hi everyone,

Background of issue : my 18 yr old daughter has always left; forgotten; lost belongings, and unless I am there to check her before leaving any where.  Unfortunately even after many years of attempting to resolve this coupled with the impending major transition to adulthood, work/university and independence(!, I am not immortal), the items are becoming irreplaceable and more important, money, security fobs etc.

We have been fortunate previously and either found or been able to replace (becomes expensive) them, however now she has potentially lost 2 memory stics containing all her A level Art music and media work, including her portfolio which is required for an interview on Tuesday.  (I could beakdown and cry if she cannot find them at college Monday.)

Tried visual prompts (looses them).

Anyone with some useful out the box effective idea's to assist us would be appreciated.

Thank you.

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  • I'm of exactly the same inclination, yet have held down a job as an aircraft engineer for some considerable time until I grew to dislike it and moved on. You simply cannot loose parts and tools in that job, and I was remarkably effective, even compared to the normies, so I believe I have evolved a workaround that works for my version of the "Autismo".

    1: I made a physical pre-departure for work checklist of items I need or want to have with me, and quickly printed out a new one if I found I'd lost the bloody thing!). The act of checking that list and collecting the forgotten or missing items focusses my mind on the simple and routine task of collecting that gear, and also creates a space for me to consider any other items I might need, occasionally enhancing my level or preparedness for the day.

    2: Being an Autist, I am quite quick to spot missing items, and I LIKE and cherish my tools anyway, so I identified all the times that all my tools should be together, (basically after every major task is completed on the aeroplanes in my case, and at the start and finish of play) so I created a rule that at those times I check that everything was there and be bloody autistic about it!

    I still blundered on occasion, but I always caught the errors myself, and retrieved the missing tools or items before leaving the aeroplane, or at least before anyone else flew it... 

    SO. Checklists, and routines where I look at my things. (I've been called "OCD" in social situations involving the carriage and of multiple items, when people catch me doing a quick "audit" periodically, but I'm just doing something that works to improve my life.

    Malevolent normies of course in the wild identify Spergs to pick on by their "routines", so do neccesary routines as inconspicuously and casually as you can, out of sight wherever possible, as a sensible caution when around normie colleagues..       

    PLUS, (and this is "golden stuff", gentle reader) be aware that the human brain performs a semi reset of it's working memory whenever you pass through a doorway or other portal! This explains totally why whenever I went to stores to get a part, or tool, having passed though an aircraft door (or hatch), and then the stores door way I could no longer remember what I had come for! Often simply passing back through the stores doorway would make it much easier to recall why I was there. Passing through portals can make you forget things. Knowing about it makes your life much easier, trust me!

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  • I'm of exactly the same inclination, yet have held down a job as an aircraft engineer for some considerable time until I grew to dislike it and moved on. You simply cannot loose parts and tools in that job, and I was remarkably effective, even compared to the normies, so I believe I have evolved a workaround that works for my version of the "Autismo".

    1: I made a physical pre-departure for work checklist of items I need or want to have with me, and quickly printed out a new one if I found I'd lost the bloody thing!). The act of checking that list and collecting the forgotten or missing items focusses my mind on the simple and routine task of collecting that gear, and also creates a space for me to consider any other items I might need, occasionally enhancing my level or preparedness for the day.

    2: Being an Autist, I am quite quick to spot missing items, and I LIKE and cherish my tools anyway, so I identified all the times that all my tools should be together, (basically after every major task is completed on the aeroplanes in my case, and at the start and finish of play) so I created a rule that at those times I check that everything was there and be bloody autistic about it!

    I still blundered on occasion, but I always caught the errors myself, and retrieved the missing tools or items before leaving the aeroplane, or at least before anyone else flew it... 

    SO. Checklists, and routines where I look at my things. (I've been called "OCD" in social situations involving the carriage and of multiple items, when people catch me doing a quick "audit" periodically, but I'm just doing something that works to improve my life.

    Malevolent normies of course in the wild identify Spergs to pick on by their "routines", so do neccesary routines as inconspicuously and casually as you can, out of sight wherever possible, as a sensible caution when around normie colleagues..       

    PLUS, (and this is "golden stuff", gentle reader) be aware that the human brain performs a semi reset of it's working memory whenever you pass through a doorway or other portal! This explains totally why whenever I went to stores to get a part, or tool, having passed though an aircraft door (or hatch), and then the stores door way I could no longer remember what I had come for! Often simply passing back through the stores doorway would make it much easier to recall why I was there. Passing through portals can make you forget things. Knowing about it makes your life much easier, trust me!

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