hiya
my son who is 19 was diagnosed this may as having aspergers and adhd and also morbid agrophobia. we dont have an official diagnosis of adhd but he seems to meet most of the criteria and till the diagnosis i didnt realise about his agrophobia i just assumed it was his aspergers that kept him indoors. he was at college until june and felt that until he gets his adhd sorted out he cant finish the third year of his engineering course. my husband also has a very mild form so i often have to put up with melt downs from them both which because ive lived with them both long enough now just makes me laugh as a way of dealing with them (sorry if this sounds insensitive but its either that or scream).
my son since he left college stays in his room all day apart from coming down each meal time to collect his food to eat upstairs. i did get him to sign on and he now receives job seekers allowance. i am in touch with my local autism group and have had several chats with them and my son is now on an 8 week customer service course with other aspergers students to help with his communication skills. my son only leaves the house once a fortnight to sign on and once a week for his other course which stops in december.
does anyone have any suggestions how i can get him out of his room more and maybe create some sort of life for himself instead of being on either his ps3 or laptop all day and most of the night as he doesnt sleep well. im at my wits end and if i mention anything to him about this he just grunts and goes back upstairs.
also i am applying for dla for him and i said to him when it finally gets sorted and if he gets anything i was going to take half of it to which he gave me a strange look and said that was unfair. i dont think i am being unreasonable as i take half his job seekers from him as his rent and having half of his dla would be paying for the car costs as i have to drive him whenever we have to go out as he wont use public transport.
sny help on this would be grateful and save my sanity if i have any lol.