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My 12 year old son does not want friends

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My son has just started in Year 8 of a mainstream secondary school.  He is the only one from his primary school to go here and since he feels he lost all his ‘friends’ from primary school,  he is adamant that he will not make a single friend at secondary school.  He has managed to get through the whole of Year 7 with not a single friend.   One of his EHCP targets is to make 3 friends and attend one school club. However he has stated very clearly that he doesn’t want this.  The Advisory Teaching Service are telling me that when his hormones kick in properly, having a leas oe friend could save his mental health. But I wonder whether I should respect his wishes and leave him be? I’d appreciate any opinions or experiences that anyone has with regards to this.  Thanks. Anna

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  • Hi, bit late spotting your post :)

    My experience in high school included a 'socialising group', I was taught (forced tbh) how to talk to people, make eye contact, 'be more normal' etc. It's made me a fantastic actress in hiding my traits but has caused more problems in the long term.

    I'd agree with not having this kind of pressure/ stress for him and see about a club/ group that he is interested going to. :)

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  • Hi, bit late spotting your post :)

    My experience in high school included a 'socialising group', I was taught (forced tbh) how to talk to people, make eye contact, 'be more normal' etc. It's made me a fantastic actress in hiding my traits but has caused more problems in the long term.

    I'd agree with not having this kind of pressure/ stress for him and see about a club/ group that he is interested going to. :)

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