Hi everyone, our son was diagnosed with aspergers, adhd, and motor dyspraxia from the age of about 6. He is now 23 and has recently moved back home after four years at University studying Chemistry. The four years away from home have taken it's toll on him and he seems worse now than before he left home. The few friends he had before leaving now have girlfriends and lives of their own and he seems completely lost and alone. We try to interact with him but we have very little in common and are often at a loss to figure out what to do to help him. I have suggested joining local groups or hobbies which he tried once but said he didn't like it. Conversation is very difficult because he rambles on about very obscure details and it makes it very hard to carry on speaking. He has recently been to see a counsellor for depression and anxiety, he hates loud noises and wears ear plugs if he goes on a bus or in town. Yesterday I offered to give him driving lessons. We only talked about it but that had him pacing around in an anxious state. If he has an appointment for say 10am, he's ready with his coat on pacing around the room from about 8am.
He has a girlfriend who he met at uni but now she lives 150 miles away. She also saw his depressed side and so things are a little shaky there too.
We are at a loss as to A. Help him and B. Remain sane ourselves. He sits in his bedroom playing on the playstation most of the time or watching extremely childish videos on youtube which he finds hilarious.
I'm very worried about his entry into real adulthood and to what might happen to him should anything happen to his mother or I.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks.
