Soiling issue

It seems as though soiling as a subject lacks glamour thus is lowly researched and incomplete of strategy offered in general. 

But possibly it is more common than widely known, and since most children will move away from it with love and guidance, it tends to be not discussed much perhaps. It would seem a minority can suffer long term but presumably because that has been without support.

For instance knew someone in the predicament long term, but take a deep breath & fear not, as this extreme case. This person did not get over it until way into their 20's, but had absolutely no support or empathy in the circumstances. Being aa school friend we even knew about it then, let alone later.

If it is not just a phase and it is into teenage etc, the short way to describe is 'Psychological', or having a deficit in looking after ones own basic needs. But what does that inform - not much .

For the younger ones it usually solves with care and guidance, for the older ones it would then seem more profound like that.

 If it does not refrain and worries mount, it could be a Unconscious / subconcious style protest caused by a trauma of some kind which is then causing the individual difficulty in making sense of self identity aspects, the more tangible symptom being procrastination manifesting as soiling. If an inner conflict has influenced this, perhaps is not being processed, thus a basic function is meeting a self neglect.

The problem is perhaps then transfered via an inappropriate sense of personal ritual, and the development of a decision making process regarding the basic function of passing a stool .. which soon inherits indecision and delay - and the soiling occurs.

Something similar without trauma could apply to younger children. As much as we try as parents, we cannot know everything about our child, and a less profound but still habit prone matter might be preventing the regime. 

Regards

It seems as though soiling as a subject lacks glamour thus is lowly researched and incomplete of strategy offered in general. 

But possibly it is more common than widely known, and since most children will move away from it with love and guidance, it tends to be not discussed much perhaps. It would seem a minority can suffer long term but presumably because that has been without support.

For instance knew someone in the predicament long term, but take a deep breath & fear not, as this extreme case. This person did not get over it until way into their 20's, but had absolutely no support or empathy in the circumstances. Being aa school friend we even knew about it then, let alone later.

If it is not just a phase and it is into teenage etc, the short way to describe is 'Psychological', or having a deficit in looking after ones own basic needs. But what does that inform - not much .

For the younger ones it usually solves with care and guidance, for the older ones it would then seem more profound like that.

 If it does not refrain and worries mount, it could be a Unconscious / subconcious style protest caused by a trauma of some kind which is then causing the individual difficulty in making sense of self identity aspects, the more tangible symptom being procrastination manifesting as soiling. If an inner conflict has influenced this, perhaps is not being processed, thus a basic function is meeting a self neglect.

The problem is perhaps then transfered via an inappropriate sense of personal ritual, and the development of a decision making process regarding the basic function of passing a stool .. which soon inherits indecision and delay - and the soiling occurs.

Something similar without trauma could apply to younger children. As much as we try as parents, we cannot know everything about our child, and a less profound but still habit prone matter might be preventing the regime. 

Regards