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is this it for the rest of our lives?????

mummy of 3

Hi all our son was diagnoised last year at the age of 6 with ASD after fighting for nearly 4 years for help. He went through a stage of being aggressive towards me physically around 4 years old after 6 or so months it gradually stopped unfortunatley now the aggression has come back ten fold and hes now 8 and nearly as tall as me. I cant control him when hes aggressive towards me as i just dont have the strength. His temper is out of control he gets angry over everything and then he starts thrwoing things at me or running at me to hurt me. We have a 4 yr daughter and 11 month old baby son and he is so aggressive towards his sister ive had to explain to the school the marks on her body because of him. We have no support from anywhere.No family who is willing to get involved they all just think hes a naughty child and we have no professionals who want to help we have called so many people but we just get told " your doing fine just carry on" or "the goverment cutbacks mean we cant help you". Im at my witts end im crying all day everyday im scared of my own son and im scared for our daughters safety around him. My husband works 50 hours a week and he tries his best to help but hes finding it hard watching me struggle and being upset all the time. Ive had to give up work to be at home for our son but im missing work as it was my 5 mins of being me just me nobody else yeah i know that sounds selfish but its how i feel. Is this really how its going to be for the rest of our lives?? Ive always tried to see the positive side of the diagnosis but now all i see is the negative and no light at the end of the tunnel sorry to go on i have no where else to turn xx

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  • thanks for all your replies all your words of support do help. The last few weeks have been really tough both with my son and issues within the family. I have still been making phone calls and emailing people and im still hitting a brick wall the only person who has recognised that we arent getting enough support is the occupational thearpist she has told the school we arent getting the right support and shes trying to phone around and get us some support. My sons anger has not calmed down im living on the edge all the time all of us are and its having a huge effect on our 4yr old daughter. She never has a moments peace as our son is constantly going on at her shes not allowed to play with her toys or play by herself cause he goes into a fit of rage our daughter is no longer eating and is very withdrawn and its breaking my heart as my family is falling apart in front of me and theres nothing i can do ive given up hope of ever having any support or having some sort of break as ive resided myself to the fact that this is my/our life forever and im just a punchbag for our son and that our other 2 kids will grow up and resent us for not doing more for them when we have tried so hard really sorry just need to let it out as im fed up of crying all the time x

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  • thanks for all your replies all your words of support do help. The last few weeks have been really tough both with my son and issues within the family. I have still been making phone calls and emailing people and im still hitting a brick wall the only person who has recognised that we arent getting enough support is the occupational thearpist she has told the school we arent getting the right support and shes trying to phone around and get us some support. My sons anger has not calmed down im living on the edge all the time all of us are and its having a huge effect on our 4yr old daughter. She never has a moments peace as our son is constantly going on at her shes not allowed to play with her toys or play by herself cause he goes into a fit of rage our daughter is no longer eating and is very withdrawn and its breaking my heart as my family is falling apart in front of me and theres nothing i can do ive given up hope of ever having any support or having some sort of break as ive resided myself to the fact that this is my/our life forever and im just a punchbag for our son and that our other 2 kids will grow up and resent us for not doing more for them when we have tried so hard really sorry just need to let it out as im fed up of crying all the time x

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