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is this it for the rest of our lives?????

mummy of 3

Hi all our son was diagnoised last year at the age of 6 with ASD after fighting for nearly 4 years for help. He went through a stage of being aggressive towards me physically around 4 years old after 6 or so months it gradually stopped unfortunatley now the aggression has come back ten fold and hes now 8 and nearly as tall as me. I cant control him when hes aggressive towards me as i just dont have the strength. His temper is out of control he gets angry over everything and then he starts thrwoing things at me or running at me to hurt me. We have a 4 yr daughter and 11 month old baby son and he is so aggressive towards his sister ive had to explain to the school the marks on her body because of him. We have no support from anywhere.No family who is willing to get involved they all just think hes a naughty child and we have no professionals who want to help we have called so many people but we just get told " your doing fine just carry on" or "the goverment cutbacks mean we cant help you". Im at my witts end im crying all day everyday im scared of my own son and im scared for our daughters safety around him. My husband works 50 hours a week and he tries his best to help but hes finding it hard watching me struggle and being upset all the time. Ive had to give up work to be at home for our son but im missing work as it was my 5 mins of being me just me nobody else yeah i know that sounds selfish but its how i feel. Is this really how its going to be for the rest of our lives?? Ive always tried to see the positive side of the diagnosis but now all i see is the negative and no light at the end of the tunnel sorry to go on i have no where else to turn xx

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  • first i havent a clue who or what a 'play therapist' is and second, clearly they dont do that great a job, insulting parents and claiming they cause autism in their kids, i would not take much stock in what that person says, they havent a clue what they are talking about, and good on you for complaining, what a disgrace to therapists.

    having any kind of depression will  make this a helluva lot harder on you , you need to remember you are just a human being, you cant do it all by yourself and especially if you are having your own problems on top of it

    so youve shouted at him and got angry, thats human, your not a machine are you, try to lighten up on yourself, there are times ive lost it with my partner even tho i have known about his a.s for years, it happens, you cant expect you will ALWAYS be able to deal with it the same way

    of course you are doing the right thing, you are doing the only things you can , you have no help and a lot of idiots around you saying 'its your fault' 

    ask and demand help from them, but dont expect it, they are a sickening trend in this soceity where peopel do the least amount of work they can and know nothing about their own job

    you are amazing and are doing amazing, . please take the time to remember that

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  • first i havent a clue who or what a 'play therapist' is and second, clearly they dont do that great a job, insulting parents and claiming they cause autism in their kids, i would not take much stock in what that person says, they havent a clue what they are talking about, and good on you for complaining, what a disgrace to therapists.

    having any kind of depression will  make this a helluva lot harder on you , you need to remember you are just a human being, you cant do it all by yourself and especially if you are having your own problems on top of it

    so youve shouted at him and got angry, thats human, your not a machine are you, try to lighten up on yourself, there are times ive lost it with my partner even tho i have known about his a.s for years, it happens, you cant expect you will ALWAYS be able to deal with it the same way

    of course you are doing the right thing, you are doing the only things you can , you have no help and a lot of idiots around you saying 'its your fault' 

    ask and demand help from them, but dont expect it, they are a sickening trend in this soceity where peopel do the least amount of work they can and know nothing about their own job

    you are amazing and are doing amazing, . please take the time to remember that

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