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is this it for the rest of our lives?????

mummy of 3

Hi all our son was diagnoised last year at the age of 6 with ASD after fighting for nearly 4 years for help. He went through a stage of being aggressive towards me physically around 4 years old after 6 or so months it gradually stopped unfortunatley now the aggression has come back ten fold and hes now 8 and nearly as tall as me. I cant control him when hes aggressive towards me as i just dont have the strength. His temper is out of control he gets angry over everything and then he starts thrwoing things at me or running at me to hurt me. We have a 4 yr daughter and 11 month old baby son and he is so aggressive towards his sister ive had to explain to the school the marks on her body because of him. We have no support from anywhere.No family who is willing to get involved they all just think hes a naughty child and we have no professionals who want to help we have called so many people but we just get told " your doing fine just carry on" or "the goverment cutbacks mean we cant help you". Im at my witts end im crying all day everyday im scared of my own son and im scared for our daughters safety around him. My husband works 50 hours a week and he tries his best to help but hes finding it hard watching me struggle and being upset all the time. Ive had to give up work to be at home for our son but im missing work as it was my 5 mins of being me just me nobody else yeah i know that sounds selfish but its how i feel. Is this really how its going to be for the rest of our lives?? Ive always tried to see the positive side of the diagnosis but now all i see is the negative and no light at the end of the tunnel sorry to go on i have no where else to turn xx

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  • My daughter is 14 and has been diagnosed with ASD some years ago. Myeldest son has left home to get away from her he moved to kent and wants to move to Scotland next. my other son also wants to move out ASAP and my other daughter has asked if she could be fostered out so she can get away like the others from her sister. She is in mainstream school and is doing well there, she is one the school council and a form rep. and is doing excellent in all her lessons coming top in most subjects. Due to her autism she only has one friend at school who has an autistic sister, and my daughter very rarely goes out. She takes melatonin at night, she is still in nappies at night and has a dummy she walks around the house naked apart from her knickers.

    When she gets angry she gets very angry, she got angry recently at her sister, my wife and i tried to stop her attacking her and she pushed both of us in line out of the way, and between us we weigh 30 stone. she throws things around and damages things, she will bite, scratch and anything else she can think of in her temper.

    Tonight my other daughter ran away from home after her latest outburst as she can not take any more. My son wants her put in a secure unit as he thinks it will help her. but i will not let that happen. I am at my wits end and feel that my whole life is unravelling in front of me. My daughter loves hugs and is very intelligent and maintains eye contact and you can have inteligent conversations with her. And tonight she started her first period. Oh Joy. Please say a prayer for us, we need it.

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  • My daughter is 14 and has been diagnosed with ASD some years ago. Myeldest son has left home to get away from her he moved to kent and wants to move to Scotland next. my other son also wants to move out ASAP and my other daughter has asked if she could be fostered out so she can get away like the others from her sister. She is in mainstream school and is doing well there, she is one the school council and a form rep. and is doing excellent in all her lessons coming top in most subjects. Due to her autism she only has one friend at school who has an autistic sister, and my daughter very rarely goes out. She takes melatonin at night, she is still in nappies at night and has a dummy she walks around the house naked apart from her knickers.

    When she gets angry she gets very angry, she got angry recently at her sister, my wife and i tried to stop her attacking her and she pushed both of us in line out of the way, and between us we weigh 30 stone. she throws things around and damages things, she will bite, scratch and anything else she can think of in her temper.

    Tonight my other daughter ran away from home after her latest outburst as she can not take any more. My son wants her put in a secure unit as he thinks it will help her. but i will not let that happen. I am at my wits end and feel that my whole life is unravelling in front of me. My daughter loves hugs and is very intelligent and maintains eye contact and you can have inteligent conversations with her. And tonight she started her first period. Oh Joy. Please say a prayer for us, we need it.

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