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is this it for the rest of our lives?????

mummy of 3

Hi all our son was diagnoised last year at the age of 6 with ASD after fighting for nearly 4 years for help. He went through a stage of being aggressive towards me physically around 4 years old after 6 or so months it gradually stopped unfortunatley now the aggression has come back ten fold and hes now 8 and nearly as tall as me. I cant control him when hes aggressive towards me as i just dont have the strength. His temper is out of control he gets angry over everything and then he starts thrwoing things at me or running at me to hurt me. We have a 4 yr daughter and 11 month old baby son and he is so aggressive towards his sister ive had to explain to the school the marks on her body because of him. We have no support from anywhere.No family who is willing to get involved they all just think hes a naughty child and we have no professionals who want to help we have called so many people but we just get told " your doing fine just carry on" or "the goverment cutbacks mean we cant help you". Im at my witts end im crying all day everyday im scared of my own son and im scared for our daughters safety around him. My husband works 50 hours a week and he tries his best to help but hes finding it hard watching me struggle and being upset all the time. Ive had to give up work to be at home for our son but im missing work as it was my 5 mins of being me just me nobody else yeah i know that sounds selfish but its how i feel. Is this really how its going to be for the rest of our lives?? Ive always tried to see the positive side of the diagnosis but now all i see is the negative and no light at the end of the tunnel sorry to go on i have no where else to turn xx

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  • thank you so much for all your replies it really does mean alot to me. Brandon has just been accepted for art thearpy over a 10 week course which we are hoping will help him in expressing his feelings and help us understand him. ive just finished picking up the contents of his wardrobe as he threw it all down the stairs because i gave him the wrong shorts!! last night i had to pull him off his sister as he was trying to punch her in the face all because she walked behind him while he was watching tv. we have just had our loft converted into a 3rd bedroom which is his room and he knows thats his space and he does go up there when hes having an outburst but sometimes he refuses and threatens to hurt me if i tell him to go there. I cant pick him up anymore hes to heavy and strong so i just grin and bear what ever he throws at me now. ive made 5 phone calls this week and each and everyone has said the same thing " sorry we cant help you" ive begged them ive cried down the phone to them and nothing not even a "let me see what i can do" i even called social services and told them that im on the verge of losing my temper with my son that im scared i will hurt him and they said "well you havent hurt him so you dont need us" any fight i had left in me is slowly slipping away cant remember the last time i slept more than 3 hours at night cant remember the last time i ate 3 meals a day i know it sounds like im wallowing in self pity and i suppose i am but its the only thing i have left. i look at my 3 kids and my heart melts i love them beyond words but this isnt life this is something else and i dont know what to do once again thank you all so much for your replies it really does mean alot to me xx

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  • thank you so much for all your replies it really does mean alot to me. Brandon has just been accepted for art thearpy over a 10 week course which we are hoping will help him in expressing his feelings and help us understand him. ive just finished picking up the contents of his wardrobe as he threw it all down the stairs because i gave him the wrong shorts!! last night i had to pull him off his sister as he was trying to punch her in the face all because she walked behind him while he was watching tv. we have just had our loft converted into a 3rd bedroom which is his room and he knows thats his space and he does go up there when hes having an outburst but sometimes he refuses and threatens to hurt me if i tell him to go there. I cant pick him up anymore hes to heavy and strong so i just grin and bear what ever he throws at me now. ive made 5 phone calls this week and each and everyone has said the same thing " sorry we cant help you" ive begged them ive cried down the phone to them and nothing not even a "let me see what i can do" i even called social services and told them that im on the verge of losing my temper with my son that im scared i will hurt him and they said "well you havent hurt him so you dont need us" any fight i had left in me is slowly slipping away cant remember the last time i slept more than 3 hours at night cant remember the last time i ate 3 meals a day i know it sounds like im wallowing in self pity and i suppose i am but its the only thing i have left. i look at my 3 kids and my heart melts i love them beyond words but this isnt life this is something else and i dont know what to do once again thank you all so much for your replies it really does mean alot to me xx

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