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is this it for the rest of our lives?????

mummy of 3

Hi all our son was diagnoised last year at the age of 6 with ASD after fighting for nearly 4 years for help. He went through a stage of being aggressive towards me physically around 4 years old after 6 or so months it gradually stopped unfortunatley now the aggression has come back ten fold and hes now 8 and nearly as tall as me. I cant control him when hes aggressive towards me as i just dont have the strength. His temper is out of control he gets angry over everything and then he starts thrwoing things at me or running at me to hurt me. We have a 4 yr daughter and 11 month old baby son and he is so aggressive towards his sister ive had to explain to the school the marks on her body because of him. We have no support from anywhere.No family who is willing to get involved they all just think hes a naughty child and we have no professionals who want to help we have called so many people but we just get told " your doing fine just carry on" or "the goverment cutbacks mean we cant help you". Im at my witts end im crying all day everyday im scared of my own son and im scared for our daughters safety around him. My husband works 50 hours a week and he tries his best to help but hes finding it hard watching me struggle and being upset all the time. Ive had to give up work to be at home for our son but im missing work as it was my 5 mins of being me just me nobody else yeah i know that sounds selfish but its how i feel. Is this really how its going to be for the rest of our lives?? Ive always tried to see the positive side of the diagnosis but now all i see is the negative and no light at the end of the tunnel sorry to go on i have no where else to turn xx

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  • hi again mum of 3.  Just meant to say that the play therapist shd have a complaint lodged against her.   I hope she's not giving any more pearls of wisdom to other parents.  When my son was little + just diagnosed (late 80's), I got 2 books out of our library on autism.  Both of them sd it was my fault (see a previous post).  I believed this because these books were written by "professionals".  I found out months later these theories had been well+ truly discredited.  I know it's difficult emotionally, but she's not the Brain of Britain, to be kind to her.  We all look for a reason for the autism:  was it something we did or didn't do, etc.  But really it seems to have a genetic element to it.  I noticed my child was different from 3 wks of age.  Looking back I can see that he was different from about 3 days old.  He was born that way.  I know you'll always remember what she sd, but I hope it loses the emotional impact as time goes by.  good luck.

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  • hi again mum of 3.  Just meant to say that the play therapist shd have a complaint lodged against her.   I hope she's not giving any more pearls of wisdom to other parents.  When my son was little + just diagnosed (late 80's), I got 2 books out of our library on autism.  Both of them sd it was my fault (see a previous post).  I believed this because these books were written by "professionals".  I found out months later these theories had been well+ truly discredited.  I know it's difficult emotionally, but she's not the Brain of Britain, to be kind to her.  We all look for a reason for the autism:  was it something we did or didn't do, etc.  But really it seems to have a genetic element to it.  I noticed my child was different from 3 wks of age.  Looking back I can see that he was different from about 3 days old.  He was born that way.  I know you'll always remember what she sd, but I hope it loses the emotional impact as time goes by.  good luck.

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