is this it for the rest of our lives?????

Hi all our son was diagnoised last year at the age of 6 with ASD after fighting for nearly 4 years for help. He went through a stage of being aggressive towards me physically around 4 years old after 6 or so months it gradually stopped unfortunatley now the aggression has come back ten fold and hes now 8 and nearly as tall as me. I cant control him when hes aggressive towards me as i just dont have the strength. His temper is out of control he gets angry over everything and then he starts thrwoing things at me or running at me to hurt me. We have a 4 yr daughter and 11 month old baby son and he is so aggressive towards his sister ive had to explain to the school the marks on her body because of him. We have no support from anywhere.No family who is willing to get involved they all just think hes a naughty child and we have no professionals who want to help we have called so many people but we just get told " your doing fine just carry on" or "the goverment cutbacks mean we cant help you". Im at my witts end im crying all day everyday im scared of my own son and im scared for our daughters safety around him. My husband works 50 hours a week and he tries his best to help but hes finding it hard watching me struggle and being upset all the time. Ive had to give up work to be at home for our son but im missing work as it was my 5 mins of being me just me nobody else yeah i know that sounds selfish but its how i feel. Is this really how its going to be for the rest of our lives?? Ive always tried to see the positive side of the diagnosis but now all i see is the negative and no light at the end of the tunnel sorry to go on i have no where else to turn xx

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  • thank you for your kind reply ive found 2 new numbers im going to call on monday and basically beg for help!!! i love my son more than anything hes my first born and he means the world to me as much as my other 2 babies do i just hate feeling this way towards him a mum shouldnt be scared of her child but i am and its driving me insane. Im scared one day i will lose my temper and really shout at him and take all my frustration out on him which i know isnt fair and its not his fault thats why i just cry all day everyday as its better than losing my temper.we arent asking for the world just somewhere or someone to turn to for help. i blame myself for our son having autism as i had severe post natal deppression with him and i just wanted to be left alone with him i didnt want anyone near me or my son. A play therapist even told me it was my fault he has autism and that has stuck with me ever since. i know on the surface its not my fault but deep down i do blame myself and think "what if i didnt have post natal depression" again so sorry to unload on here i just have no one else to talk to xx

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  • thank you for your kind reply ive found 2 new numbers im going to call on monday and basically beg for help!!! i love my son more than anything hes my first born and he means the world to me as much as my other 2 babies do i just hate feeling this way towards him a mum shouldnt be scared of her child but i am and its driving me insane. Im scared one day i will lose my temper and really shout at him and take all my frustration out on him which i know isnt fair and its not his fault thats why i just cry all day everyday as its better than losing my temper.we arent asking for the world just somewhere or someone to turn to for help. i blame myself for our son having autism as i had severe post natal deppression with him and i just wanted to be left alone with him i didnt want anyone near me or my son. A play therapist even told me it was my fault he has autism and that has stuck with me ever since. i know on the surface its not my fault but deep down i do blame myself and think "what if i didnt have post natal depression" again so sorry to unload on here i just have no one else to talk to xx

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