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is this it for the rest of our lives?????

mummy of 3

Hi all our son was diagnoised last year at the age of 6 with ASD after fighting for nearly 4 years for help. He went through a stage of being aggressive towards me physically around 4 years old after 6 or so months it gradually stopped unfortunatley now the aggression has come back ten fold and hes now 8 and nearly as tall as me. I cant control him when hes aggressive towards me as i just dont have the strength. His temper is out of control he gets angry over everything and then he starts thrwoing things at me or running at me to hurt me. We have a 4 yr daughter and 11 month old baby son and he is so aggressive towards his sister ive had to explain to the school the marks on her body because of him. We have no support from anywhere.No family who is willing to get involved they all just think hes a naughty child and we have no professionals who want to help we have called so many people but we just get told " your doing fine just carry on" or "the goverment cutbacks mean we cant help you". Im at my witts end im crying all day everyday im scared of my own son and im scared for our daughters safety around him. My husband works 50 hours a week and he tries his best to help but hes finding it hard watching me struggle and being upset all the time. Ive had to give up work to be at home for our son but im missing work as it was my 5 mins of being me just me nobody else yeah i know that sounds selfish but its how i feel. Is this really how its going to be for the rest of our lives?? Ive always tried to see the positive side of the diagnosis but now all i see is the negative and no light at the end of the tunnel sorry to go on i have no where else to turn xx

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  • im really sorry to hear of your sutuation it must be really bloody stressful and disheartening for you, it is NOT selfish, you are quite rightly very stressed and at your wits end

    if ANY person says 'your doing fine' you say 'NO we are not, i am making this clear, we are NOT doing fine and i am putting the respoinsiblity of anything that happens right here at your door, because i have made this very clear, we need help, now what are you going to do about that?'

    now thatt may be a bit agressive for you, i dont know ,but if i was in your poisition i would be making it very clear whats needed and whos responsible for it to happen and whos responsible when it doesnt

    as for cutbacks, thats a sad truth, its happening to every part of our lives and its us normal people who have to suffer all the cr*p that comes along withthat, lackof financial support, emotional support EVEN from the authorites who are SUPPOSED to do just that

    you need to push for help from the authorites, it will probaly be quite a fight with them, and al ot of effort and might not seem worth it but if you feel you need it, fight for it

    they will do everything they can to make sure they do as little work as possible but anything would be progress, and if you get one small thing, you can get more

    dont give up, you deserve help and have all our support here

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  • im really sorry to hear of your sutuation it must be really bloody stressful and disheartening for you, it is NOT selfish, you are quite rightly very stressed and at your wits end

    if ANY person says 'your doing fine' you say 'NO we are not, i am making this clear, we are NOT doing fine and i am putting the respoinsiblity of anything that happens right here at your door, because i have made this very clear, we need help, now what are you going to do about that?'

    now thatt may be a bit agressive for you, i dont know ,but if i was in your poisition i would be making it very clear whats needed and whos responsible for it to happen and whos responsible when it doesnt

    as for cutbacks, thats a sad truth, its happening to every part of our lives and its us normal people who have to suffer all the cr*p that comes along withthat, lackof financial support, emotional support EVEN from the authorites who are SUPPOSED to do just that

    you need to push for help from the authorites, it will probaly be quite a fight with them, and al ot of effort and might not seem worth it but if you feel you need it, fight for it

    they will do everything they can to make sure they do as little work as possible but anything would be progress, and if you get one small thing, you can get more

    dont give up, you deserve help and have all our support here

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