autistic sons exposure to adult content

 Can someone please please help us,my 7 year old autistic son has had to be removed from a school where up until last august and the beginning of primary 3 was a happy well adjusted,poplular and intigrated member of school. We have now been forced to home school him for his own safety and welfare after making several complaints against his classroom teacher after he had a physical breakdown and his health began to deterioate in january quite dramaticly. He has regressed severly in his education and only with gentle coaxing and his friends coming forward uncovered the horrendous details of a deal being made with his teacher that if he was a good boy her "special boy" that they would have their special secret just between them not to tell his parents and she would not tell us that he was being allowed to access a web site and play on it for long periods of time within her classroom with her knowledge. What i was to find when i eventually got my son to show me was not only alarming but sickened and disgusted me to the core. I will list just some of the lesser evils, it only took me 20 or so minutes to easily find them,and here are just a few, How to kill youre parents,youre teachers,how to kill a retard a ******,how to drug intoxicate and rape women,suicide guides,how to slit youre wrists,write a suicide note,how to cook up,pervert games,GROOMING flash games and adult content pornographic images,porn stars,self harming techniques and how to hide them from youre parents,pro terrorism,porno creep,mutilation,animal torture and killing,how to put youre cat in a washing machine,extreme and graphic violence....i could go on but i think i will have alarmed most readers enough. This was all reported to school and investigation was assured along with re-assurance my sons welfare and protection was of the up-most importance,indeed they did find this website up and running in school the whole school has been accessing it for quite some time and ive been given a nice little pat on the head for my fantastic parenting skills and exposure of horrific website thats managed to fly under the radar of schools protection. Theyve tried their hardest to keep it as an internal affair and brush me off and everything else under the carpet. My son went on to collapse in school and was left under a table on a beanbag to "sleep" for 5 hours before we were made aware they could not wake him. This so happens to be on the day he returned after apparent investigation and he would not see the teacher involved and she would not be taking his class anymore. We have since found out she was in school for meeting on same day. We have now taken him out of what used to be such a happy environment and our fantastic relationship with said school in and over the past 3 years has completely disintigrated along with our faith in education system and child support who we feel have not only turned their back on us but more impotantly not even so much as phoned,wrote or contacted us in the 6 weeks since this has happened. We of course have reported it to even higher educational authority but now has come to feel like they are doing everything in their power to cover this case up and never answer our constant asking of what protocol has been followed after official and continued complaint was made against school and classroom teacher....PLEASE,please,please somebody anybody who is outside the education services help us get the justice my son deserves,he's lost everything and its heartbreaking for us all.

  • This sounds like a horrendous experience, I really feel for you.  I think in any of these situations where we feel our children are being mistreated we are very angry at the wrong doing but can also feel guilty as their parents and guardians. 

    You have and are doing your very best for your son and by continuing to pursue it hopefully saving other children from going through the same, with and without ASD.

    I hope your son can recover from this really unpleasant time and you can all move on.

    Well done taking them to task.

  • Hi jaybirdstar,

    I'm sorry to hear about what's happened and how this has affected your son. You may want to consider contacting the Education Rights Service offered by the NAS to get a clear picture of what options you have to make sure your complaints are delt with properly and what help is available for your son. You can see details of the service here -

    http://www.autism.org.uk/educationrights

    I'm sure everyone reading your description of a teacher providing access to an inappropriate website as a 'secret' from you will be really worried. If you haven't already it would be something you could discuss with your local Police service and Social Services to see what they would advise as well.

    If you'd also like to discuss the situation in a completely confidential setting then you may want to call either our helpline or our Parent to Parent service.

    It may also be worth reporting the website in question, especially given the content you describe and its apparent disregard for the audience seeing the content. The best place to do that may be the Child Exploitation & Online Protection Centre, or CEOPS -

    http://www.ceop.police.uk/report-abuse/

    I'm really sorry to hear what has happened and sorry I can't offer you much more than you may already know about.

    Hopefully other Community users may be able to offer both support and other services that may be able to help you in your complaint. I'm sure everyone wishes you and your family the best in this difficult time.