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jrandall10

Hey everyone 

We are currently home schooling our 11 year old daughter. Home schooling her is the best decision we have ever made and apart from what I'm asking advice on she's so much happier and making loads of progress. My hubby is her main carer and I work part time. I teach Dm her subjects and then my husband does the going out on bikes, for walks etc. Our issue is she will constantly answer him back with attitude that she says she doesn't know she is doing. I've been here when it's happened it's like a tennis match with their answer going back n fourth. It's like one of them has to have the last word. An example is hubby will say is the news on, Dm will reply of course it's on every night or they will even go on about what's for dinner. Also hubby likes to see what's happening outside the house like if a police car or something pulls up, she goes on at him being a nosey neighbour n will just keep going on. Can she actually help it or control it? Hubby just sees it as attitude. Thanks in advance for any help

Kind regards

Jayne 

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  • Hi

    It's typical for a child to try to find their boundaries but, due to home schooling, she may have a limited palette of available input so she may not be fully grasping the impact of her words.

    Does she have a group of friends she sees regularly or is she retiring to her bedroom for down-time?  Who else is she mixing with to develop her social skills?

  • in reply to Plastic

    Hi we have been advised not push socialising onto her as it puts her anxiety up. She has a sensory room where she goes to read or on her iPad. She does spend all her time with us. She had friends when she was at school but is very upset they haven't kept in touch but I've said that she hasn't tried with them either. She doesn't get the same fulfilment from socialising and friends. Thanks for your reply 

  • in reply to jrandall10

    I apologies in advance - but her behaviour may be a result of measuring and mirroring your own behaviours.

    Have you thought about Scouts?   They accept girls and it's a simpler, less political social scene than all-girl groups - boys are in it for the experiences and fun rather than complex social interactions.  It's heavily supervised and only a couple of hours so it's very low stress.  It's task oriented rather than social pressure.

    They're really accepting of people's differences and will do everything they can to include your daughter.

    Might be worth a try.

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