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parents of adult child

sueandrichard

Hi there, I am looking for advice on behalf of my mother and father in law.  Their son has be diagnosed with aspergers a couple of years ago and they are both in their early 70's and not in good health, and he in his early 40's.  He was initially living away from home for a few years but has went back to the family home.  He has since become verbally aggressive at times and does not help around the house, has to be told to wash, does not keep his room tidy and life in the house is becoming more intollerable for them.  He also has additional health related issues mainly in relation to his back and severe overeating if this is not monitored.  My m and F in law are wanting to move house into 'a wee bungalow' but would prefer their son to move into supported accomodation to encourage independance as in their words 'wont be around forever' and want to know he will be safe and enjoy where he lives.  M and F recieve no additional benefits nor does their son as he was seen as fit for work by the Job centre!

We unfortunately live in Scotland and would welcome warmly a point of contact for organisations who could give advice and guidance on getting support for M and F to support the changes which will happen when they move home and also to look at supported accomodation and finacial impact of this on their son.   So that we can support them through this transition 

Many  thanks in advance, 

  • He could claim disability living allowance - this has nothing to do with fitness for work , but how much care you need for day to day life. I'd suggest contacting your local branch of the autistic society to see if they can help with the forms.


    You could also contcat the Adult Social Care department of your local council and ask for an assessment for him . This will highlight his care needs and what support he should get . They may have a specialist Autism team.


    I hope this helps get you/them started. I was amazed how much support that was available to my son that I would never have known about without advise from forums like this.