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Newly diagnosed teen - desperate for advice about managing periods please

Ayshigirl

Our 14 year old daughter has been recently diagnosed with ASD along with Oppositional Defiant Disorder (and ADHD). Meanwhile, her periods started a little while ago,. She is highly sensitive and embarrassed and  in complete denial about it. She refuses to discuss it with me although I had been open with her about periods ever since she was tiny. She cuts me off when I try to speak with her about it. My husband and I have found hidden soiled pants and soiled pads in her bedroom. She refuses to let us into her room though and has frequently been violent towards us (police involved and stays in A and E) so we are understandably confused and nervous about addressing this with her. I have placed a fliptop bin in her room hoping she would put the dirty pads in but she hasnt. I told her what to do with the rubbish. I also left a note in the kitchen about stain removal and had a family discussion about what to do about stained clothes.I have also put pads in the bathroom so she can use them without  anyone else knowing.

Help! What should we do? If I simply take out the dirty pads and clean her underwear she will know I've done it and be furious. This has been going on for some time now and when the weather warms up it will be disgusting.

We'd appreciate your advice please.

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  • I use to hate telling my mum anything when I was a teenager (I wasn't diagnosed until I was 16year old) and the more she pushed me the more I rebelled against her. Maybe see if someone else she trusts in the family (auntie or nan) can talk to her about it or get her the paper period bags so its discreet for her to throw away maybe tell her to leave them in a bag outside her room so you can remove them or bin the the bathroom?. I can not take any contraception with hormones in as it makes my mood swings really bad. Hope this helps I remember being so embarrassed I used to avoid school and people at all costs not a nice feeling. 

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  • I use to hate telling my mum anything when I was a teenager (I wasn't diagnosed until I was 16year old) and the more she pushed me the more I rebelled against her. Maybe see if someone else she trusts in the family (auntie or nan) can talk to her about it or get her the paper period bags so its discreet for her to throw away maybe tell her to leave them in a bag outside her room so you can remove them or bin the the bathroom?. I can not take any contraception with hormones in as it makes my mood swings really bad. Hope this helps I remember being so embarrassed I used to avoid school and people at all costs not a nice feeling. 

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