NEED advice!! start statementing process

I wonder if anyone could possibly give me a piece of advice.

My 9 year old son has been diagnosed with ASD, selective mutisms, severe anxiety disorder and sensory integrated disorder. His psychologist has strongly recommended me that I should start statementing process for my son as soon as possible. The problem is that, his school (mainstream) has failed to identify his difficulties/problems, as he is an extremely obedient and quiet pupil and he can’t ask for help. They think he is perfectly OK, as he doesn’t cause problems or complain about anything, although he often releases his anxiety or stress (accumulated in school) after coming back from school, as form of aggressive and violent behaviours. He still needs to wear a nappy for his poo and he can’t clean by himself. He has never done poo in school so they don’t believe it. He often comes back from school with a burse, but he can’t explain why he has got it (he can’t ask for help when he gets injured, he just keeps everything inside him. I also witnessed his classmate injured him but my son even couldn’t tell his friend to stop it or complained about pain)   

 As my understanding, once my request of assessment has been made, LA is going to collect the “evidence” from school within 6 weeks. I am not convinced at all that the school write anything that support my application, as they strongly believe that my son is perfectly capable in school, as he doesn’t complain.

 Anyone has the same experience? Want to apply for statement but school report is not supportive at all?  I really want to start the process but what will happen when school report spoiled my application? (quite likely ended up to a tribunal, isn’t it?)  Any advice will be very much appreciated.

Many thanks! 

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  • If I can have a third successive run at this thread, - the bullying aspect is crucial here.

    Anyone who thinks children are innocent wasn't around when the vulnerable kid got picked on behind the bike sheds (or wherever). Most adults can have no idea how truly bad things can get when the bullies and their audience got a victim that cannot protest, or isn't taken seriously for protesting too much, at their disposal to abuse as they please.

    Many asperger kids, including the many now adult who didn't have the benefit of childhood diagnosis, have been scarred for life simply by being easy targets in a world where an easy target is a gift to collective experimentation. That's not saying there aren't asperger kids who end up being bullies themselves, but some really do experience the pits. And if they are the quiet ones, as parents you'll never ever get to know what went on.

    If I can recommend another book helpful to parents and teachers, try Nick Dubin (2007) "Asperger Syndrome and bullying - Strategies and Solutions" Jessica Kingsley Publishers. Nick also addresses teachers who bully vulnerable pupils.

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  • If I can have a third successive run at this thread, - the bullying aspect is crucial here.

    Anyone who thinks children are innocent wasn't around when the vulnerable kid got picked on behind the bike sheds (or wherever). Most adults can have no idea how truly bad things can get when the bullies and their audience got a victim that cannot protest, or isn't taken seriously for protesting too much, at their disposal to abuse as they please.

    Many asperger kids, including the many now adult who didn't have the benefit of childhood diagnosis, have been scarred for life simply by being easy targets in a world where an easy target is a gift to collective experimentation. That's not saying there aren't asperger kids who end up being bullies themselves, but some really do experience the pits. And if they are the quiet ones, as parents you'll never ever get to know what went on.

    If I can recommend another book helpful to parents and teachers, try Nick Dubin (2007) "Asperger Syndrome and bullying - Strategies and Solutions" Jessica Kingsley Publishers. Nick also addresses teachers who bully vulnerable pupils.

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