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NEED advice!! start statementing process

wood36

I wonder if anyone could possibly give me a piece of advice.

My 9 year old son has been diagnosed with ASD, selective mutisms, severe anxiety disorder and sensory integrated disorder. His psychologist has strongly recommended me that I should start statementing process for my son as soon as possible. The problem is that, his school (mainstream) has failed to identify his difficulties/problems, as he is an extremely obedient and quiet pupil and he can’t ask for help. They think he is perfectly OK, as he doesn’t cause problems or complain about anything, although he often releases his anxiety or stress (accumulated in school) after coming back from school, as form of aggressive and violent behaviours. He still needs to wear a nappy for his poo and he can’t clean by himself. He has never done poo in school so they don’t believe it. He often comes back from school with a burse, but he can’t explain why he has got it (he can’t ask for help when he gets injured, he just keeps everything inside him. I also witnessed his classmate injured him but my son even couldn’t tell his friend to stop it or complained about pain)   

 As my understanding, once my request of assessment has been made, LA is going to collect the “evidence” from school within 6 weeks. I am not convinced at all that the school write anything that support my application, as they strongly believe that my son is perfectly capable in school, as he doesn’t complain.

 Anyone has the same experience? Want to apply for statement but school report is not supportive at all?  I really want to start the process but what will happen when school report spoiled my application? (quite likely ended up to a tribunal, isn’t it?)  Any advice will be very much appreciated.

Many thanks! 

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  • Hi, as someone who's just come out of 6th Form, I know what you guys mean. Even though I 'acted out' in typical autistic fashion when I was in primary on the odd occassion, the SEN teacher still didn't think I had any difficulties because of how well behaved I was during lessons. I still struggled to 'prove' I was struggling until 6th form, fortunately, I got assessed before my 18th so now I have all the help I need in time for Uni.

    You NEED to stress to the school that if they don't help with this statement, then your child may end up so stressed and anxious, it WILL affect their work and/or behaviour at school. Sadly, schools genuinely are only interested in their grades/reputation, so its those two points you need to highlight. I made it to year 11 before I had a massive breakdown, which led to my diagnosis. It was a terrible thing and I'd spent years feeling suicidal. :(

    So break it down to them as this:

    They get help now, no problem in future. No help now, potential MASSIVE problem (for them) in future, plus, scruitiny from others if they didn't 'spot' it.

    My mum phoned up my primary school when I got diagnosed and went -ballistic- at them for not noticing my Aspergers Syndrome. XD

    Best of luck.

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  • Hi, as someone who's just come out of 6th Form, I know what you guys mean. Even though I 'acted out' in typical autistic fashion when I was in primary on the odd occassion, the SEN teacher still didn't think I had any difficulties because of how well behaved I was during lessons. I still struggled to 'prove' I was struggling until 6th form, fortunately, I got assessed before my 18th so now I have all the help I need in time for Uni.

    You NEED to stress to the school that if they don't help with this statement, then your child may end up so stressed and anxious, it WILL affect their work and/or behaviour at school. Sadly, schools genuinely are only interested in their grades/reputation, so its those two points you need to highlight. I made it to year 11 before I had a massive breakdown, which led to my diagnosis. It was a terrible thing and I'd spent years feeling suicidal. :(

    So break it down to them as this:

    They get help now, no problem in future. No help now, potential MASSIVE problem (for them) in future, plus, scruitiny from others if they didn't 'spot' it.

    My mum phoned up my primary school when I got diagnosed and went -ballistic- at them for not noticing my Aspergers Syndrome. XD

    Best of luck.

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