Where to begin.....my daughter has always been “different” from my other children and finally last month the doctor agreed and said she is “text book Aspergers”. We are waiting for a full assessment/diagnosis to be given however in the meantime we are really struggling with her violence and aggressive behaviour towards all of us.
she hits, smacks, kicks all of us (mum, dad & older sister) she screams repeatedly when asked to do anything for herself and when she doesn’t want to something she will just do an ear piercing scream, sometimes for hours- and I mean hours, at a time !
We all live in constant fear of upsetting her and she completely rules our house and lives. We have numerous “calm down” strategies in place, sensory bag, bubble lamps, picture boards with her emotions on it but nothing is working.
at school she is super good, well above average intelligence and a model student but at home she is the complete opposite. I am aware this is often the case with girls who are Aspergers but when it comes to getting help and support it limits out options.
Pls pls can anyone offer any help or suggestions where to go or what to do to get help ?
im at the point where I’m worried a neighbour will call the police because of the screaming and shouting from her.
We all try to help her and work with her but she the anger side of her is uncontrollable and we all need help !
Thank you and I welcome any help.
I’m not the parent of an autistic child, so I can’t give you first hand advice, but NAS does offer a parent to parent service which you can find here. The NAS helpline can be found here. Child Autism UK also have a helpline, you can find it here. Ambitious About Autism are also worth checking out. This blog is written by a UK Mum of an autistic boy. Young Minds have a page about dealing with anger: https://youngminds.org.uk/find-help/for-parents/parents-guide-to-support-a-z/parents-guide-to-support-anger/ . Scope can give you advice on support: https://www.scope.org.uk/advice-and-support/ Some parents report that omega 3 and probiotics can help improve difficult behaviour. The scientific research on these supplements is inconclusive, but there is much anecdotal evidence. I suspect this is because they are effective for some children and not for others. Might be worth trying. If there is an autism group local to you, it may be an idea to contact them. They may be able to put you in touch with other Mums in a similar situation. Talking to someone aware of the problems you are facing will at least give you some sort of support network. All the best, Graham.
Thank you so much Graham that is a massive help, I will contact the numbers/groups you have mentioned. I will also look into the omega 3 and see if it helps at all.
Thank you again.