20 year old son recently diagnosed on the spectrum but didn’t want to know diagnosis and still doesn’t.

Hello

i am new to the forum so apologies if this is the wrong way of doing things ! 

My son has always had a learning difficulty and I thought he was on the spectrum too . He agreed to be diagnosed last year on the understanding that he didn’t want to know the outcome and he still doesn’t . 

He is really struggling with life and recently been signed off work with anxiety/depression . He has refused to take medication to help his anxiety . He has tried a counsellor but didn’t like it. 

Im just at a loss to know what to do , I feel he should know he is on the spectrum so that he can understand himself . 

I wonder has anyone else had this problem, or any suggestions  of how I can my son through this difficult period . 

Thank you