8 year old asd son struggling with rejection from school friend

My son is 8 years old and has suspected Asperger syndrome...we’re waiting for an official ASD diagnosis. Meanwhile, he’s been struggling with a sudden and unexplained rejection from his best friend at school. My son is very sensitive and struggles socially, so he has found this rejection very hard to deal with and is very confused by it. The reason for this rejection is unknown and, tbh, unimportant at this point, as kids will be kids and these things happen all the time in school, but what I’m really worried about is how this is affecting my son. I’ve noticed him displaying symptoms of depression at just 8 years old and I can see that the situation is really playing on his mind. I want desperately to help him, but, not having had a diagnosis yet and therefore any therapy or even advice, I’m not sure what to do. I have been thinking about talking to my son’s teacher to make them aware of the situation, but not sure how that would help or if they can even do anything about it. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Please help! Thank you.

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  • Yes! I have this problem with my daughter she is almost 8 and only really Has the one friend and when she rejects her or is even perceived to not want her my daughter falls apart. 

    Unfortunately 8 year olds are not known for their tact or sensitivity and they can go through a very fickle phase at that age. His friend probably doesn't have the slightest idea how much this has affected your son it's probably just something as simple as he wants to play with new people and if your son struggles with change he will feel excluded ( happens regularly with us) 

    Try reassuring him that sometimes people want to play with other people it doesn't mean that they don't like you and talk to class teacher they might have an idea if something has changed in class they can also talk to the whole class about not leaving people out this helped in our case as the friend in question realised that she had been leaving my daughter out and made more effort to include her. 

    Just keep reassuring him and allowing him space to vent his feelings any 8 year old can be challenging I supervise lunch time play at school covering year 3-6 and they can be very tactless until reminded how they make other children feel

    Good luck to you and your son 

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  • Yes! I have this problem with my daughter she is almost 8 and only really Has the one friend and when she rejects her or is even perceived to not want her my daughter falls apart. 

    Unfortunately 8 year olds are not known for their tact or sensitivity and they can go through a very fickle phase at that age. His friend probably doesn't have the slightest idea how much this has affected your son it's probably just something as simple as he wants to play with new people and if your son struggles with change he will feel excluded ( happens regularly with us) 

    Try reassuring him that sometimes people want to play with other people it doesn't mean that they don't like you and talk to class teacher they might have an idea if something has changed in class they can also talk to the whole class about not leaving people out this helped in our case as the friend in question realised that she had been leaving my daughter out and made more effort to include her. 

    Just keep reassuring him and allowing him space to vent his feelings any 8 year old can be challenging I supervise lunch time play at school covering year 3-6 and they can be very tactless until reminded how they make other children feel

    Good luck to you and your son 

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