Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, one of our 11yo Son’s Autism traits is severe anxiety about meeting people he knows out of their usual context, for example, school friends out of school. It has got to the point that we struggle to get him to leave the house and he’d rather stay in his bedroom all day. If anyone has experience of something similar, what strategies have you used to help as we’re struggling to know how to help him? Thanks!
I should probably elaborate, our Son has no problems with the people at school; he gets on well with most people there. It’s the seeing people out of their usual context that he cannot deal with. Another…
What are his interests? Can you find any clubs or societies that cover those within a reasonable distance of where you are? I guess the thing is to try and help him find reasons why he wants to go out…
I still hate meeting people out of context. It makes me really anxious if I bump into someone from work outside of work. I'm not sure there's an awful lot you can do about that.
Its very common…
I'd suggest getting him into the Cadets or Scouts - lots of well-controlled social activities and learing lots of skills - including getting on with others.
The kids all tend to be 'nice kids' to be going there in the first place and there's no bullying allowed - everything is well supervised.
They are very welcoming and accepting of kids with difficulties and disabilites.
There's also lots of predicatable routines so it's a low-stress environment for auties. They also welcome parent-helpers if you want to help him integrate into the group.