Hello. My son is aspergers and we were fortunate to have had an early diagnosis (since 3.5) and supportive childcare and school. Outside of the home, he often masks it well but can be challenging at home
He has recently started to become aggressive and hurt his 3 year old sister. It’s usuallg when they’re playing, get a bit excited or the usual fights over toys, but he can flip and grab her hair, pin her down - and it frightens me.
To me he’s by nature actually a very gentle boy (not a rough and tumble kid) but flips and he can’t control himself. He also “let rip” at his childminders this week for first time and trashed her sitting room. She had to remove her other children for their safety. We’re aware she has a care of duty for the others and if he can’t control himself there she can’t have him.
We’ve tried different tactics - giving him time out, taking toys away or losing privileges but it’s always after the event and to be honest it doesn’t make much difference. In calm moments I try to talk about the impact, how would he feel etc. He seems contrite but it keeps happening
If anyone has been in a similar situation and has any tips or ideas to try I’d be grateful to hear. Thanks you!!
