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NAS49619

Our son Aran was moved to a secure unit from a closed secure unit today. We had 20 minutes notice of this. We manged to get a lawyer to revoke our section 25 but it had been superseeded. He was violent i n the closed unit as he has ASD ADD and wanted to come home.  If he was a prisoner of war he would get medals for bravery but I do not condone violence. It showed me his spirit was unbroken. My husband and I have a family lawyer but because we did not know he was being moved today and found out only accidently by phoning the unit to talk to Aran- we were 50 minutes too late in revoking our section 25 and we could have taken Aran home. He is now locked away. We agreed to the close secure unit for assessment purposes only. We had no idea they would/could do this. We need a lawyer in Glasgow for our son. A hearing is on Tuesday. We have not even the paperwork to prepare. We are a loving family with no criminal background, in fact I was a SEN teacher and my husband is a professor at university. Our son has been transitioned without story boards, without us being allowed to encourage him,  without his consent or understanding. We need to hire a lawyer. Aran wants to come home and we want him home. We have no experience of the law and need to move fast on this. We have 3 other children who are devestated. Aran did not know the consequence of his violent behaviour. We were to take him home tomorrow and the last two days saw a peaceful interactive boy who came out of his bedroom. He had withdrawn himself into his room for most of the day. Staying in bed. A child in deep despair. We are in a crisis of a nightmare level. So any one that can help direct us to the best child lawyer in Scotland please

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  • Thank you all for reaching out to us as a family. We drove to see our son today with our eldest teenage son. Aran is sleeping like drugged. He refused to see us. We were taken around to see the place and the place seemed Ok. It is clearly a jail. My 16 yr old son was shocked.  Staff were good at explaining things. I wrote Aran a letter and left it. I rang up around 7.30 to see of Aran got out of bed. He had and was expressing his need to go home. He said to a member of staff that he did not want to see us till Tuesday when he would be going home. It was explained to him that we were getting lawyers to help make that happen but it might not be that he would be coming home. I was glad that the truth was being told. We see the lawyer on Monday for us parents. I have tried to get a lawyer for Aran in advance of the hearing but all offices closed till Monday.  In order to see the paperwork being submitted we have to drive to another location to get them. Otherwise we will have no chance to prepare our arguements back.

    I am suffering terribly. The enforced severing from my son is hitting me so hard that I am in a shock that shakes my body. I am unable to sleep- I have not eaten today. The stain and pain is so brutal as everything that is happening is abhorrent to mother nature.  I had to go to our of hours to see a doctor as I know I need to have my wits about me and in this state it is no good for my son. He needs my assistance and my body is grieving. Mothering my 3 other children is impossible so I have got friends to help and support us. My husband is showing the strain. He is staying strong for me and working like a trooper to learn the law as fast as possible.

    I do not know my rights now as a parent. Can they medicate Aran without my knowledge or consent. Can they stop our visits. Aran has two options as I see them and he has to learn fast. Comply or break. Either way you loose yourself to the power of another will. I don't want his spirit broken. He is being peaceful. I agree that we would let him be there for the short term for assessment purposes only. If I could say to Aran - it will be 6 weeks. But I am terrified that once he is caught in the system it will be a tough one to escape. 

    Aran got up and asked to see you 25 minutes after we left. 

    They could not phone us to return as there was another visit in progress.

    I may be that Aran was had enough of a shock to learn.  But he is 13 and although intelligent still with a child's understanding.  Surely Scotland can do more than splinter a faimily up against our will. Now, the irony is that Aran is costing I don't know how many thousands but when I appiled to get an assistance for Aran - it was refused. The policies have not supported a family to stay together. There must be thousands of ASD kids who have been violent in the home. Where are they all. Not in the 81 secure beds to cover the whole country. A family we know, signed section 25 to access education for their son, have now revoked theirs as they are terrified of something similiar happening.

    We are assaulted as a family. The kids are feeling disbelief. 

    Thank you all for support.....truly.

  • in reply to NAS49619

    Try and stay strong to fight for Aran. You won't feel like sleeping or eating but your brain needs rest and fuel. I am glad you sought help from a doctor.

    Horrific as this situation is many autistic people have an incredible ability to endure and recover. Those of us who are older have survived some dreadful experiences. 

    Aran knows that you love him and that you are fighting hard for his rights. He will take courage from that. Hold your other children close too when you can. 

  • in reply to Sunflower

    Sunflower, you are so right.  Your words are straight to the truth. Thank you.

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