My brother is 21 and is on the severe side of the autistic spectrum but he is not classed as having a learning disability.
He is extremely abusive to my parents all day long. We are not allowed to look at him or talk to him, if we do we get a load of abuse. He demands all communication must be down via text except when he wants to shout abuse at my parents. He sits in his room all day playing video games and will leave the house maybe once a month. He constantly texts my mum all day long making demands and bullying her (100+ texts a day), if she doesn't answer within a few minutes he rings her mobile then the house phone continuously. If you carry on ignoring it then he will come downstairs and argue and throw abuse and threats through the door until you do what He wants.
He has a massive thing about noises and has threatened to kill/maim my parents numerous times over insignificant noises we can not hear, he believes we are making noises on purpose to wind him up. When hes bad he will burst out of his room up to 20 times a day if we do insignificant things like shutting a window or flicking a switch to see what we're doing and "mumble" a bunch of swears and threats about what he 'd do to my parents if they keep making noises.
The situation is unlivable and my mum is on the verge of a mental break down of the constant abuse. Even as she just walks up the stairs he 'll shout to himself "oh the c*** is coming up the stairs" yet she is basically his servant having to do everything he demands.
Absolutely no one will help us. The social workers stance is to just kick him out. Although he doesn't have a learning disability he is probably mentally a 5 year old, he is extremely vulnerable. He can't make his own food, he forgets to eat or drink if you don't tell him.
We got him sectioned once and they were absolutely useless and did nothing because he will not engage. We got him into social housing but they put him in with a bunch of drug dealers and he started trying to be abusive to them like he did with my parents. He has to move back because of his safety and because the social workers didn't care enough to help in anyway. A big part of it is he pressured his way back into the house because he is so relentless when he becomes obsessed with something (moving back) and we thought we could get him somewhere else. He will only move into social housing again if it's a detached property because of his issue with noises, of course this is practically impossible to find for a single occupation.
We call the police and they just shrug and say what do you want us to do about it? Last time we called the polic e because he threatened to kill my parents we wanted him to be removed from the house because we were done, the police said they can't just chuck him out because it's cold outside. They got us to pay for a hotel for him to stay in for a night to cool down and by this point the momentum has gone and they made it clear that weren't interested. They say wait until Monday morning and ring the social workers and the social workers say chuck him out or call the police if he does anything again.
We just don't know what to do anymore. we don't want to kick him out because it will be an extremely slow and bad end for him, he 'd just end up on the streets and who can bear to see their autistic child like that?
We're just looking for any solutions at this point. Does anyone know what we can do next? Is there anyway to get him into housing or any special housing available? We've been told he's not bad enough for residential but they're offering to do a mental capacity test on hi m to see but we think He'll pass it.
Any suggestions?
