I don’t feel believed

My 7 year old daughter has just had her referral accepted and we are about to start the process of getting a potential diagnosis.

While we are waiting things at home are getting pretty bad, almost daily meltdowns which are lasting longer and longer. She gets very stressed and anxious and struggles to verbalise it. The problem is the school don’t see any of this, she hides it all at school and then it comes out at home. I had a meeting with her teacher today to see if we could come up with a way for my daughter to express how she’s feeling at school because often something happens at school and she holds it in all day. The teacher outright said she doesn’t believe she’s autistic and she doesn’t see a problem (she expressed as much on the forms that she had to fill in for the referral). 

I feel like the school have me down as some crazed, neurotic mother who is making it up or just a rubbish parent. I left that meeting feeing crap and not knowing how to go forward and deal with this. I can’t understand how they can outright dismiss this as a potential problem. 

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  • Hi 

    I really do understand what you are going through, have you tried contacting the school nursing team in your area as they work with the school but also with the services that assess children. You may find them more help my daughter is similar in that she functions well in school never lashes out but when she gets home it's like jekyll and Hyde! 

    The school nursing team are the ones pushing for my daughters referral as they genuinely understand that she masks things at school. Also try talking to the senco at your school they might be more help than the class teacher 

    Good luck 

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  • Hi 

    I really do understand what you are going through, have you tried contacting the school nursing team in your area as they work with the school but also with the services that assess children. You may find them more help my daughter is similar in that she functions well in school never lashes out but when she gets home it's like jekyll and Hyde! 

    The school nursing team are the ones pushing for my daughters referral as they genuinely understand that she masks things at school. Also try talking to the senco at your school they might be more help than the class teacher 

    Good luck 

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