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Lack of structure?

Mumof4

Hi!

My son 19 has Aspergers. he has recently finsihed college after 3 years and has a part time job. He does not want to study more and cannot cope wiht the idea of finding a full time job away from his current job.

He seems to be struggling a lot with stress and anxiety at the moment. He has always found school holidays a struggle, and I am wondering if, having been at nusrsery, then school, then college, he is now struggling wiht a lack of routine and structure. His work days vary so he has no predictability at the moment ot his day to day routine.

I have a younger son with ASD and an older son wiht Aspergers who went from school to college to work fortunately and has never been in this situation. WE have no professional support at all at the moment and I am unsure if a trip to the GP may be any use.

Would love to now if this is a usual reaction to the end of college etc.

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  • When I get stressed I create my own structure in the form of a timetable.

    I quit uni twice and can't hold a job so my days would otherwise be very unstructured and confusing. Perhaps suggest to him that he think about a few things he wants to spend his days doing and create a timetable to help with the stress.

    I used to struggle a lot with the summer holidays too but I can't remember how I felt after I left full time education. I think I drifted for a but found some structure in some things I got involved with not long after quitting uni. 

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  • When I get stressed I create my own structure in the form of a timetable.

    I quit uni twice and can't hold a job so my days would otherwise be very unstructured and confusing. Perhaps suggest to him that he think about a few things he wants to spend his days doing and create a timetable to help with the stress.

    I used to struggle a lot with the summer holidays too but I can't remember how I felt after I left full time education. I think I drifted for a but found some structure in some things I got involved with not long after quitting uni. 

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