Talking about autism with an 8 year old

My son is 8 years old and not diagnosed yet, been waiting a year and a half for an assessment but the paediatritian and teachers say it's very likely to be high-functioning ASD. I haven't mentioned anything about this to him. I'm worried that if I don't start doing this soon, he'll just have his own more negative way of describing himself to himself. We talk about difficulties he has with sensory things, and I tell him it's ok to feel like that. He has difficulties with interacting with other children, playing and with making friends. My question is, when do you start talking to a child about autism as a specific thing? 

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  • I too have an 8 year old. Teacher said he has some ASD traits but not enough yet for a diagnosis, he is coping at school and I should let him be. He has always been emotional and can’t handle anger and frustration very well at home and has a high level of anxiety. But is adamant he doesn’t want any help with dealing with these big emotions or to be singled out any way at school. So I am reluctant to push for a diagnosis as I don’t want to rock the boat or make him think he is any different from his peers as I know fitting in is very important to him. But I also don’t want him to spend his whole life struggling when I know there is help out there and things for him to access to make life a bit easier. 

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  • I too have an 8 year old. Teacher said he has some ASD traits but not enough yet for a diagnosis, he is coping at school and I should let him be. He has always been emotional and can’t handle anger and frustration very well at home and has a high level of anxiety. But is adamant he doesn’t want any help with dealing with these big emotions or to be singled out any way at school. So I am reluctant to push for a diagnosis as I don’t want to rock the boat or make him think he is any different from his peers as I know fitting in is very important to him. But I also don’t want him to spend his whole life struggling when I know there is help out there and things for him to access to make life a bit easier. 

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