Published on 12, July, 2020
This is a last resort for me, I have been struggling with my son for as long as I can remember, I am at my last tether with him, so I was hoping if I was to post about him and his behaviours here then you might be able to tell me if I am barking up the wrong tree or not.
I have 3 boys and currently pregnant with number 4, the son I am having trouble with his my middle child who is 5 years old. He is completely unmanageable and unruly at home but apparently an absolute angel at school, literally polar opposites.
I have done numerous parenting courses including 1,2,3 magic which i was told if it doesn't work and the child doesn't respond then there is something wrong. The method works for my 7 year old and my 2 year old.
I went in to my sons school last September (2017) and spoke to the school SENCO when he first started school to get some help as I knew that my youngest child would start to copy his behaviours, they didn't seem to want to know initially so after speaking with them on a couple more occasions and finally writing a crisis letter to the head teacher I finally got myself a TAF meeting in June. They were meant to send "pathways" off in July but they have yet to do this. (I have been told that the TAF is a legal document and they need to abide by it)
The school don't see any issues with my sons behaviour which really infuriates me as I cannot see how he can be the way he is at home but be completely the opposite at school, surely he would show at least some signs.
As I said above I have been struggling for a long time with my son, easily the last 3 years and it is only getting worse as the days go by. I have done my own research as any mother would and I feel as though he may have some form of autism, I know that it is a broad spectrum disorder. My brother in law is severely autistic and my own brother has Asperger's, I have read autism is genetic.
So the same sort of things happen on a daily basis;
i appreciate this is long and it is only a very brief outline as he does more and I have so many more examples. I also appreciate the time anyone takes to read this and hopefully can give me some help and advice, i understand he might not have autism as i have looked into a number of different other things too, i was just hoping i could take this with me to my next TAF meeting as some more evidence.
Thank you in advance and feel free to ask me anything if you want to know more about his behaviour.
Poor you. Sorry to hear things are such a battle.
I was always the good boy at school; at parents' evening, mine couldn't believe the teachers were talking about their son.
I can still hear my father muttering, "what's the matter with that boy?".